[BrokenNBeautiful]

I am afraid I upset someone and still feel like I don't help and all I do is make it worse, so I am going to just read the board again for a while.

This is why I am not replying to anyone now.

I have had many experiences in my life where I have tried to reach out and only hurt ppl or made them more upset.

Where is the middle ground?

Sometimes I just need to leave ppl alone.

And how can I then let them know I care?

I can't. If I have to leave them alone.

But know that I do care, even in my own f***ed up way.

thanks,

Carol

[BrokenNBeautiful]

PS:

I am also not going to post threads for a little while; I admit I did get a little gunshy the other day.

I was upset about upsetting ppl, too.

BPD does make us empathize and my empathy thing is feeding on itself again. I am so worried that all I do is mess up more when I open my fat mouth.

Originally Posted by BrokenNBeautiful

PS:

I am also not going to post threads for a little while; I admit I did get a little gunshy the other day.

I was upset about upsetting ppl, too.

BPD does make us empathize and my empathy thing is feeding on itself again. I am so worried that all I do is mess up more when I open my fat mouth.

It's okay...we've all been there. I've been there a lot lately. If you want to show you care but are scared to say too much, just say exactly that..."I just want you to know I care." Simple, sweet, to the point, and I don't see how anyone could take that wrong.... Take care. We're all in this whole BPD mess together....

Well Broken, it's a fine line people walk in this arena - friends that is, and supporting them. Although I know what you mean about your BPD affecting this, know that everyone says things that hurt or upset other people all the time, without meaning to. There's just no way to always know 100% whether they'll take it the right way or not. It's ok to make mistakes with people, don't over analyze that. Thing is the real friends the ones that really know you will understand most of the time even if they do get hurt.

Hang in there... I understand completely and do the same, feel like I've said too much or the wrong things..

*many hugs to you*

[optimize990h]

For me, sometimes whether I post or chat for more than 1 hour I'm avoiding what I need to do for myself.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

thanks for your feedback.

esp about making mistakes.

Talking back to that awful voice in my head that says to me, "You irredeemable piece of ****!"

We all deserve forgiveness.

thanks again,

Carol