[jbaker30]

Hi guys,

I have a question for everyone. I recently had this experience where I lost a lot of friends because I asked for their help too much and then turned around and treated them badly, such as lying to them and talking bad about them. The thing is that when I was doing these things, I didn't realize what I was doing. I didn't realize I was hurting them, or even that I was lying. I never intentionally lied to them or tried to hurt them. My question is does this sound familiar to anyone and if so, what do I do?

[greyclouds]

I'm afraid it don't to me.
My friends are my rocks and they put up with me.

I watch one of my families friend do this tho and it's every hurtful, the sort of stuff she does.

I do believe if that they are your true friends you can build bridges.
Start with your best friend, take her out and try explaining.
I know it is so easy to get lost in our own thoughts and emotions, it clouds over the people we care about the most.

I wish you all the luck. I hope you manage to work things out
((hugs))

Friends? Friends in real life? What's that? Been too long...can't remember...

[LadyShadow]

I am afraid I am on the other side of this situation. I have a friend who lied to me and talked behind my back. But she is still in the mental health system and not doing to well, If she were to reach out to me, I would forgive her even though shes done some hurtful stuff. Not all your friends may be willingly to do that so be patient and kind to yourself when you try to mend bridges.

I am afraid of getting hurt so I don't do friends often and when I do I push them away.

Originally Posted by Tinkerbell..

I am afraid of getting hurt so I don't do friends often and when I do I push them away.

You sound exactly like me....

Originally Posted by Maranara

You sound exactly like me....

(((hugs)))

I think it's a BPD thing

[Susiieee]

Friends are those who are there when your doing good or when doing bad, and I mean you can't talk about your friends not unless they know you are, just be straight up and honest about what your saying but if your saying crucial things you can't blame them for not wanting to be around you any more, in other words you get what you give.
I mean it sucks being one and having no one to socialize with, meeting people doesn't mean telling them ur secrets just live the moment that's all!!