[BelleCat]

Danny and I made plans to see each other today. I told him that I'd be around 7:30 cause that's when I will have access to a car. Everything was fine until he texted me not too long ago saying "Hey, I MIGHT go to a meet up tonight. It'll be around 7:30, so I'll let you know what I do asap."

I'm now mad, and I'm hurt. Because I feel like I've been sort of blown off. He said he isn't sure yet, but OUCH! Thing is, do I have a right to be upset?

[IowaFarmGal]

I know I wouldn't like being left hanging that way. I hate for things to be ambiguous all of a sudden when I thought they were solid. I don't think it would make you feel any better to tell yourself not to be upset would it? It never worked well beating myself down with not having a right to be upset when I am. Try to be accepting and understanding of yourself like a good friend.

I have a friend who is kind of like that--I think we've made plans only to find out that they were more ambiguous to him than they were to me (though if we've solidified plans he would probably not back out of them). How solid were the plans between the two of you? Because I find that, between my friend and I, sometimes I think that our plans are really solid when to him they were a mere suggestion. If he's not in the habit of blowing you off, I'd say maybe chalk it up to a miscommunication. Talk to him about it later and tell him how you felt so that it doesn't happen again.

[gabbylove]

i feel everyone has the right to be upset at what upsets them! but sometimes you need to kind of take a backstep and look at things in other people's points of views. i actually have this issue quite a lot at being upset when plans don't fall through. my parents are always saying we'll do this..and i see it more as a we WILL but they were just saying more as a they wanted to do it one day but probably not soon. but anyway, reading this and being in the future i see that i shouldn't have gotten so upset.

maybe you should kind of look at it like how are you going to feel further down the road about it? sure right now its upsetting because your angry and feel let down. but later when you calm down you might realize that you shouldn't have been. just some food for thoughts!

You have every right to be upset. It sounds like when you say you made plans it was solid enough that you were counting on it. If that is the case he is blowing you off, whether he is doing so intentionally or not. I say don't make plans with anyone and break them unless it's an emergency. If I tell you I'll go to the movies with you friday night and you and I agree. I should make every effort to be there. Unless my kids get sick or something else serious comes up I should not break that. Going to a meet up instead of you, justifiably probably feels like a slap in the face and I don't blame you.