friendless

I totally agree with this.

With the meetup groups I think I fit in and do well, but then I find that the same people I think I'm fitting in with have all been doing stuff outside of meetup without me. Like, they all get together and do non-meetup stuff and just don't think to (or don't want to) include me. I'm either not memorable enough or not interesting enough to include. I think it's just that I don't make myself interesting enough. I have plenty of personality with people I click with, but it's reeeaaallly difficult for me to click with people.

My two cents,,,,after many years of trying too hard to "fit" in, join in, socialize and endure torturing my own self. I took the pressure off of me. I have learned to enjoy my own company, and find that without the pressure of finding friends, I have become happier, easier to get to know, and less likely to harm myself or others when searching out company when feeling lonely.

I know, and I've kind of given in to hanging out on my own for the most part (I have no other choice so I need to enjoy my own company and when I'm not in the midst of a depression I do) but... what about when you want to do things that require other people? Like, I really want to go to a few baseball games this season or to a concert this July or other things that really don't lend themselves to going solo. Mainly because I have to drive a few hours across the state to go (and I'd like to have a driving buddy) but also because I don't think I'd have much fun if I went alone; those aren't "solo" activities. Even going to a bar to play darts or to go bowling I can't do alone. I can probably do a movie by myself; I've done it before. But a major league ballgame or a concert with a major artist? Probably not.

I don't have any friends, either. I have been totally alone now for 2 years, and I hate it. I hate the weekend, my time off, because I'm so completely alone for so long. There's no calling someone up and just going out. Lewis Black was in town last month and I wanted to go so badly, but I had no one to ask. It was so frustrating to have to miss that performance.

Misskeena, I went to a baseball game by myself last summer (Giants fan, world championship, but I won't rub that in). It's a 3.5 hour drive so I went up the night before and stayed at a hotel by myself. I kept it together until I got home, and then I just burst and cried and cried. I was so self-conscious about being alone. So I couldn't recommend it. Even though it WAS baseball, and there's nothing better.

Yeah, yeah, the Giants really stomped my Tigers. That was pretty disappointing.

See, I actually went to the Tigers playoffs last year and I went WITH someone. I was talking about it at work and someone said, "Oh, that sounds cool," and I jokingly said, "Hey, wanna go?" and she said yes. I was so shocked I got tears in my eyes and had to go to the bathroom (no one saw, I covered it pretty quickly.) But I can't always count on that. I'm going to ask the same person if they want to go to a game with me in April but it is just so weird. All of the people I do these types of things with aren't people I actually hang out with. We get along great and I would hang out with them, but they never call me. Ever. I always tell them that we should hang out and they agree but...nope. Never. So maybe it's just that they have other things going on? I don't know. I'm afraid to just call them up for a drink. Maybe I should.

I think it's awesome that you went to the World Championships alone. That's definitely a special case. I think people would look at you and be like, "Hey, that person is definitely a fan," and think nothing of it. But a regular game? No way.

Naw, it was a regular game, sometime in July. I think it's awesome that you got to go to a playoff game. So maybe you can go to a game with this person again. I go to a few games each season with my sister. We're not close, but hey, it's live baseball.

It's good to know that I'm not the only person who has literally no friends. It's been almost a year since I cut off my last friendship.

I've basically given up. I'm so sick of the emotional roller coaster. I'm sick of the tiring PROCESS of making friends - it was fairly easy to make friends in high school but I'm no longer forced to interact with my peers so it requires so much more effort to seek out and maintain relationships. I usually misinterpret somebody's actions and cut them out of my life before we even get a chance to be friends, anyway.

I'm significantly lonelier without friends but I'm a lot more stable so it's been both a good and bad choice to stay friendless.

I am it is really starting to bother me alot..I feel like im all alone..nobody ta talk with...I have a g/f but its like ..I don't know..I miss having friends ..and the anxiety is starting to get bad about it..feel like something is wrong with me and no one likes me.

Use PC to help. No, it's not the same, but it does help considerably and with that the anxiety becomes bearable...when you realize you're not alone being alone....

I do but what hard is the night when your mind basically takes over and its like its racing with thoughts..I have trouble to fall alseep and when I do its not a enjoyable sleep...weird dreams and stuff...then the anxiety when I wake up...also having no one to talk about it really suks...its like I have to keep it locked up.

I know that feelling very will ..have it at the moment

I have one girl friend which I'm greatful to have but I'd like more girl friends. I have a few guy friends but I never really "hang out" with them, we just talk on the internet even though we live close to each other. Most of my socializing it done through dating (I usually meet people through dating sites, although sometimes I'll meet them at the bar). I really wish I had more girl friends, they kind of scare me.. like most seem so confident/normal/well-adjusted and that really intimates me and make me think I'll have nothing in common with them.. like I'm too much of a freak or something.

I do go out and do things sometimes, like I actually have a lot of acquaintances and get invited to things through facebook but I'll go to things like gatherings or parties- I've been doing this for years but I always wind up sitting there and wont say anything, like I'm really bad at socializing in groups.. I have absolutely no idea how people manage to make friends with each other it's so confusing and I have really hard time connecting with people.

My anxiety has seemed to have skyrocketed within the past 6 months or so.. I'm even having difficulties in one on one situations, which was something that was pretty easy for me.. I just feel like I have nothing to say and am really boring/uninteresting.

Sorry for rambling but you've really hit the nail on the head with this thread, I've been obsessing about this for months!

I'm from SE Michigan, right next to Detroit.. where do you live?

Oh... there's a website I'm on, maybe you guys will find it useful? it's girlfriendsocial.com.. it's a place to meet girl friends, I'm talking to two ladies right now and should be hanging out with one or two of them soon.. I'm verrrry nervous about it and am not sure how things will pan out but I'm giving a shot at least.

yes I know this is a few months ago already but I do NOT recommend any dating site if you are lonely and have no friends, you'll immediately be found out and everyone will ignore you. This from... yours truly.

Having no close friends has been a theme in my life, too. It was hard to accept when I was a teenager, because everybody teased me. I tried hard to blend in so people would leave me alone. I thought this would help me make one friend but it did not work, because I wasn't being me.

At the age of 20, I managed to make one friend. We have known each other for 15 years. His friendship is enough for me.

I'll never have a "normal" social life. I have accepted that.

My mushroom hunting hobby seems to attract attention. Strangers approach me to discuss fungi and ask questions. Sometimes an unconventional hobby may help with socializing.

I'm in the same boat as you. I have no friends because I feel everyone is going to hurt me one way or another. Also everyone talks behind each others back its not worth it, I don't trust anyone and I hate it.

That's just one person's (possible) experience. That's not necessarily going to be everyone's experience on a dating site. It's best to let others try something for themselves and find out what works for them.