[greentires4me]

I am an emotional wreck I went to see my mental health team the supposed team to help me with things I asked for a therapist someone to talk to about my feelings they said what for. its was like why did I even say a thing...

then they went on and on about this rainbow club a place for people so supposedly like myself who needs support...but its not a place like me its a place where people who have mental health illness go and hang out.

I asked them why do I keep thinking of reasons to hurt myself when I have all these good things going for me and they couldn't give an explanation.

Every question I asked they kept saying we are here to support you...and I was like how are you supporting me if you have no answer for my questions and I am crying how is that supportive?

I walked out there feeling emotionally drained and just one big wreck...how supportive really...

[optimize990h]

Just came back to read your post and the bad time you had this afternoon. Well, they did not have an easy answer and it is a difficult question. Looks like that was the best they could do at that time.

nobody has all the answers always questions, but the answers aren't always what we want or need...

but just because they didn't have any answers doesn't mean they aren't truly supporting you. no one on PC has all the answers either, but surely you know we try to support you, right? we're here to give you virtual hugs and send you positive vibes, though i know that isn't enough...but sometimes someone saying they're there for someone else is all a person can do.

[minefield]

They cannot answer that question for you, how can they know the real reason you harm yourself. It is not the same reason for everyone.

I self harm and don't understand fully why, mostly I think its the need to escape my reality, my hurt and pain. Misdirected frustration. To be admitted and looked after. Sometimes I didn't remember doing it just woke up in hospital my motivation being subconscious. Alcohol lowering my inhibitions is a major factor it took me a long time to accept the role of alcohol in it. That's why I do it as far as I'm aware today it may well be after I go to DBT I will understand it differently.

To get the answer to that question you need to reflect internally, examine your cycles of behaviour. Mb accept some harsh truths about the situation so requires you to be humble and honest. It's amazing how well we can lie to ourselves.

Your mental health team can support you but not do the hard work of self reflection and realisation. They can teach you the tools like meditation, listen to you ask you questions to make you think.

I have also struggled with mental health teams feeling that they did not know what they were doing, they just felt disillusioned and uninterested in their role of support.

Have you told them how you feel?

That you want more from them, ask them why they won't explore difficult questions with you? It may be that they want you to come up with the answers yourself. This is a popular therapy tool which drives me mad also it prevents the worker from entering a conversation they can only paraphrase what you have said. This method should be abolished it really makes my blood boil too.

[greentires4me]

Originally Posted by minefield

They cannot answer that question for you, how can they know the real reason you harm yourself. It is not the same reason for everyone.

I self harm and don't understand fully why, mostly I think its the need to escape my reality, my hurt and pain. Misdirected frustration. To be admitted and looked after. Sometimes I didn't remember doing it just woke up in hospital my motivation being subconscious. Alcohol lowering my inhibitions is a major factor it took me a long time to accept the role of alcohol in it. That's why I do it as far as I'm aware today it may well be after I go to DBT I will understand it differently.

To get the answer to that question you need to reflect internally, examine your cycles of behaviour. Mb accept some harsh truths about the situation so requires you to be humble and honest. It's amazing how well we can lie to ourselves.

Your mental health team can support you but not do the hard work of self reflection and realisation. They can teach you the tools like meditation, listen to you ask you questions to make you think.

I have also struggled with mental health teams feeling that they did not know what they were doing, they just felt disillusioned and uninterested in their role of support.

Have you told them how you feel?

That you want more from them, ask them why they won't explore difficult questions with you? It may be that they want you to come up with the answers yourself. This is a popular therapy tool which drives me mad also it prevents the worker from entering a conversation they can only paraphrase what you have said. This method should be abolished it really makes my blood boil too.

I think I told them how I feel with the way they came across maybe not in the right way but in my way. even my previous support worker came in the room and they abruptly went to look for another room and after they left they were like I don't like how people interrupt by making calls or go on the computer its distracting. I was like I don't find it distracting then said I miss them I really do miss them. I miss everything about my last support worker how supportive they were and how they were always there for me even though at times it seemed like they were busy trying to find an office to work out of.

I just feel alone and without my supportive end who was just always just there for me not because she had to be but because she cared to be.

I'm really sorry this happened today, that must really be frustrating. Can you keep asking them to provide you with a therapist? Sometimes you have to keep pushing to get what you need, you know? I mean, like I've said, I don't know how that system works, but maybe that's what needs to happen.