[WetheKings]

But I have no idea how to.
The mood swings are ridiculous.
My mom said something to me that for some reason my brain took the wrong way and now I'm just sitting here sobbing uncontrollably and I have no idea why and I don't know how to stop it and I just feel totally out of control when it comes to my emotions and the things I say and the way I interpret things and I'm so sick of not being able to deal with stress and none of my meds work and when I tried a DBT group and they just told me to learn how to do it and when I asked how they looked at me like I was a complete idiot and wouldn't give me any tips and when I ask anybody that has this disorder they just won't tell me what I'm supposed to do and I'm just completely at a loss as to what I'm supposed to do.

DBT does help, but it's not something that you can get overnight or even over the course of several weeks. It took me working on DBT or meditation every single day several times a day for about two months before I understood what I was supposed to get out of it and before it seemed to show any result at all.

My suggestion is several-fold. First of all, do not give up on DBT. It is the only proven therapy for BDP, but it needs to be a long-term, almost religious type of committment. Do it every day, several times a day as though your life and your sanity depended on it. Blend that in with some meditation. The two go hand in hand very, very well. You can get additional resources for both at www.dbtselfhelp.com and www.audiodharma.com among other sources. DBT self help has some good meditations at a second called "Instant Mindfulness".

Basically, what both are attempting to do is change the way you think a bit. We overthink everything, we worry about everything, much of which we can do nothing about. We worry about the future that we have no control over since it isn't even here yet. What DBT and meditation attempt to do is to get us to stay in the present. To notice things around us, to not worry about all the stuff we can't control, or at least not as much, to observe the things around us instead of being focused inward all the time. It will help....don't give up on it.

[vorticella]

I still have to try DBT, but what I have tried (and I'm fairly under controll at the moment) is to rationalize every "negative" feeling I have.
Every relationship I have seemed to be about to break, so I sat down to think about everything that made me upset, and I started to write why getting so upset about them wasn't rational and what I should do in case those situations happened again.

I guess that is a good first step.

Also I hung for dear life to any happy moment I experienced haha. The point is to always be concious about what you are feeling and to analise why you are feeling that way. Except when you're happy, in that case just gooo with the flooow ;P

[greentires4me]

me on the other hand have been doing nothing of the sort...I've just changed a few things I do everyday and been feeling slowly better and better. I have my ups and downs but who doesn't I have been able to limit my repeat times to the hospital I haven't been there in almost 3 weeks now.

I have a DBT app on my phone that I can look at if I want to but most of all app I use is iMoodJournal too keep track of my mood then I show it to my mental health team when they care to look.

I have a routine I have everyday..

What my mom says I always take the wrong way and always leads me to tears after being with her...so I try to limit my interactions with her.

[Luctor]

For some of us the challenge is greater. Some BPD sufferers can overcome most of their issues themselves, others need a strong network of support and accepting that fact that it's going to take a lot of time and commitment before things start improving. But they will.

Don't lose hope. Progress is slow and gradual.

I wish you all the best in your recovery and that you start feeling better soon.