[NICK 0305]

Hi peeps. Just had good couple days and been getting on well with my ex who i love and she still loves ne. Anyway i just went to drop our son back to her and she greets me in her dressing gown so i ask is that bloke in bed with you and she replies yes ! Wow felt like a knife had just been stuck in me. We go downstairs to chat and i was very calm, she was upset and said sorry, she gave me a kiss and a hug and said she loves me but doesnt know what shes doing. This is a repeat of what she did before exactly the same when we went thru a bad patch, i feel shes trying to replace me to stop herself loving me but she knows its nit right. I kniw i have BPD but im now thinking maybe its not all me and she may have a problem. Wgat do i do peeps fir the best ?

[Flooded]

Remain civil for your sons sake but forget about her. Trouble with a capital "T".

[NICK 0305]

Originally Posted by Flooded

Remain civil for your sons sake but forget about her. Trouble with a capital "T".

Thanks. Yes i know your right 100% but need my head to realise shes bad news. Ive just ben on the fone to her abd asked what she wants to do she replied shes staying with him cuz he makes her smile which hurt. She is very hurtful and she also said when in bed doibg whatever she sees me nit him which also hurt. To be perfectly honest i cant take this anymore i dknt deserve it and never have. I may have a disorder but im no cheat all i want is to be supported and loved unconditionally.

I'm just curious to know why you keep saying that she still loves you? Maybe it's a feeling you have, but has she come right out and said it? Because the fact of the matter remains that, right now, the two of you are ex's and she can see (and have in her bed) whomever she wants. It isn't to hurt you, and it doesn't mean she's bad news. It means she's moving on, and I think you would do best to try and do the same. Sorry if those words seem harsh but from what I've read here on PC, it seems that you're hanging onto her pretty tightly and that's really hurting you. Best of luck to you in all of this.

[NICK 0305]

Originally Posted by misskeena

I'm just curious to know why you keep saying that she still loves you? Maybe it's a feeling you have, but has she come right out and said it? Because the fact of the matter remains that, right now, the two of you are ex's and she can see (and have in her bed) whomever she wants. It isn't to hurt you, and it doesn't mean she's bad news. It means she's moving on, and I think you would do best to try and do the same. Sorry if those words seem harsh but from what I've read here on PC, it seems that you're hanging onto her pretty tightly and that's really hurting you. Best of luck to you in all of this.

Hi yeah bit harsh but thats life. I will be straight she has issues from her childhood and for some reason she does this to me when we have a rough patch. This is the third time that i know of that shes chose to sleep with someone else and now i question myself as to whether she also has BPD or another disorder. I know deep down shes no good for me but its hard to let go especially when shes just had sex with a bloke whos in her bed and shes downstairs crying into my arms saying sorry and she loves me ! It has wrecked my head in a big way but like ive said i now need to listen to friends and family and close the chapter. I just wish it was that easy but its not but in time i will find myself again and then find someone who loves and cares for me. Thanks for your kind honest words x