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Jun 20, 2013, 08:57 PM
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Okay so I know with bpd you go from loving certain people to hating them...is it always that extreme? Like with me and the people I'm closest to, I go from feeling like their super important to me, to just being annoyed by them for no reason. With no reason and sometimes through absolutely none of their own doing. It's like one day they're my bff and the next I can't stand to see their name in my texts. Like sometimes I just lose interest in them. I never cut them out of my life though, just put them on the backburner temporarily... Weird? Also when someone hurts my feelings (this happens a lot with my mom) I feel like I can't stand them, like I only focus on the bad, but I still love the person and know that I'll get over the bad feelings. And THEN I have one particular person (an ex gf who also has bpd) who no mattter how many times she has hurt me or ignored me and made me feel abandoned (which happens a lot) I can never stay angry with her, I always put her and her needs above everyone else and always drop anything anytime she needs me or just wants to talk to me or spend time with me. And yes I have issues with codependency, I know this already lol. I'm just wondering if this is what is meant by the love hate, black and white thinking.
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Jun 20, 2013, 11:26 PM
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With me, it's all about getting my feelings hurt. If someone hurts my feelings, they are dead to me for awhile. Depending on the seriousness of the violation, they will be on my s***list for several hours to forever. That's what I think the black/white thinking is to me.
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Jun 21, 2013, 07:48 AM
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Black and white thinking is that one day you cannot live without them in your life and soon afterwards you cannot tolerate them being in your life and this can happen over very trifle incidents. It depends on who gets to make those decisions. As long as you feel that you are in control then it's easy to justify your behavior without taking responsibility for it...my thoughts
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Jun 23, 2013, 02:41 AM
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A good example for me is that my fiance has 2 best friends. The first has never crossed me so I always see him as a great guy. The other friend crossed me one time and has suffered my wrath ever since. No matter what he does he will always be a man I do not like....once you cross me there is no turning back.
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