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Jul 12, 2013, 08:24 PM
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When I started with my therapist earlier this year he was nurturing. Something I never experienced before. Nurturing to the point I could not believe it. To good to be true. He encouraged me to reach out to him. Call him or e-mail him. He always responded fast with detailed helpful responses. I attached quickly. He said he was my support and he "Gets it". He even would check in on me between sessions.I became addicted to him and needed the contact between sessions to help get through my emotional firestorm. Well he turned a switch and is has now become cold. Emails are short and sterile professional. I overwhelmed him I guess. Just like I thought would happen. I feel very harmed. I feel like I can not deal emotionally with this. I feel incredibly rejected, abandoned and lost. Grief.
How do you get over this?
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Jul 14, 2013, 06:01 PM
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Hi MoxieDoxie
People move on to other things. I'm sorry you had to be in the middle of that. It's not nice. There was one therapist that I liked, and after a couple months he decided to retire. At least he did tell me a week in advanced.I was shocked, but not hurt. I haven't had a therapist since then.You might want to check out..... Coping with Emotions - Forums at Psych Central Eating Disorders - Forums at Psych Central Post-traumatic Stress - Forums at Psych Central Self Injury - Forums at Psych Central Survivors of Abuse - Forums at Psych Central Steps to Better Self-Esteem - Forums at Psych Central Sorry there are so many, but I went by your profile. The answer to your question is, you have to simply move on. Another therapist will take his place, and you may or may not like him/her. The only way to know is to move on. Good luck on your journey. Sincerely, Piraeus
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Jul 14, 2013, 06:33 PM
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I was completely ruined by a T that decided after 1.5 years, we weren't a good fit. I was so attached, it hurt more than the problems I came in with.
Luckily the next T was the one I've been with for years. Don't give up on therapy because one jerk got in over his head (they shouldn't invite attachment then slam the door-not your fault.) |
 Atypical_Disaster, Freewilled, MoxieDoxie
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Jul 14, 2013, 06:46 PM
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Yeah, you just have to move on to new things. Best of luck to you.
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Jul 15, 2013, 07:29 AM
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Jul 15, 2013, 07:34 AM
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I am so confused and nervous. I have an appointment with him this afternoon. My mood will match his mood. If he is in a stiff, professional stance I will be cold and distant and unable to communicate, will be thinking about is fleeing out the door and how wounded I feel.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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