[acon1234]

Hey everyone,

I joined this forum because I feel that there is more to what has been going on with me. I know this all may seem so silly, but I have taken the "sanity test" and it says I have a high score of possibly having BPD. I have been doing my research on it and a lot of the symptoms sound like me except for the excessive drinking,gambling, eating, however I do excessively shop and spend a lot of money, but I dont go over what I cant afford I just spend all my money. I have been in many relationships, all of them have been unstable and I have occasional rage outburst over things that could be talked about. I have major trust and abandonment issues when I am in a relationship with anyone. It gets to the point where I cant do my school work or anything for that matter. I also ignore all the good in the relationship and only focus on the bad and thinking that the person is going to leave me for someone else, cheat, or I am not good enough. I also feel like they are not spending enough time with me or giving me enough affection when they really are? I guess my question is are those the kind relationship issues you have when having BPD? And if there are more please let me know. I dont want my relationship to fail over this.

Thank you!

[cluelessgluten]

Are you being treated by a doctor? The only way to know for sure is to see psychiatrist and tell them your symptoms. Your symptoms sound consistent with what I go through sometimes. Even if it is not BPD you could still benefit from some therapy.

[GeorgiaGirl413]

You need to consult a professional if you have not already. I have trouble with relationships too. Regardless of your diagnosis, it seems like you need some help. Relationships fail for lots of reasons. Having BPD doesn't mean you can't have a successful one and not having BPD doesn't mean you will.

[allme]

Yeah you need to see a professional really. I can relate to some of what you say but I am no doc. I have BPD and have been with my hubby for 14 yrs since the age of 18 and there are many here in relationships. Truth is you can have relationship problems whether you have BPD or not. Relationships can be hard at the best of times and admittedly my BPD symptoms have caused a lot of trouble but luckily I found the right partner for me. There is no reason why you can't find the right partner for you too. There is hope

[Mustkeepjob32]

You have BPD, but this is something that you have to have diagnosed by a psychiatric professional.