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Oct 16, 2013, 04:47 AM
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So my best friend and I were having a deep and meaningful conversation (I haven't told her about my bpd diagnosis) and she brought up the fact that she has depression and she cuts, then she showed me..
I don't know, my heart dropped and I freaked out. I wasn't angry at her, I actually felt for her, but I couldn't express it. I just looked, cried, then left. She probably now thinks that I'm disappointed in her or something, but that's not the case at all, I want to help! But.. How can I help her when I can't even help myself, right? Anyway, I need to tell her why I reacted like that, but I don't know how without telling her about me.. Any advice? |
 Anonymous200125, gayleggg, HealingNSuffering, technigal
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Oct 16, 2013, 05:42 AM
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Does she know about any of your issues? Perhaps you can just say that you have similar struggles but don't feel able to go into detail. Say that you weren't pushing her away but you just don't know how to help her when like you said you can't help yourself either.
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| brannabruh101
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Oct 16, 2013, 07:25 AM
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If it were me.......... I would be 100% honest.
It had to take a lot of guts on her part to be honest with you. To put herself in that vulnerable position. I think if you are honest back - you BOTH will know that you have someone you can turn to. Someone who truly understands you and can sympathize with you. I think you may have been given a GIFT. Good luck, God bless. |
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| brannabruh101
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#4
Oct 16, 2013, 09:36 AM
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Mags Depression diagnosed March 1996 PTSD diagnosed January 2000 BPD diagnosed September 2013 |
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#5
Oct 16, 2013, 04:23 PM
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Don't be too hard on yourself, people get emotional.
I guess cutting must be an upsetting issue for you. For me (and I have BPD too), its not really a big deal at all. I used to cut, and most the people I know have cut, so I guess its something I am desensitized too! Just communicate your friend that you are sorry you got upset, and that you love and care about them, even if you have to write them a note! Your friend might have BPD, people with BPD often end up friends with other people with BPD! |
| brannabruh101
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Oct 17, 2013, 12:18 AM
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If she is your best friend, that implies that you have some trust in her. (I say that knowing that BPDs have trust issues.) I would hope that you could tell her about your Dx, but you should be able to sincerely apologize for walking out on her even if you don't end up confiding this. You are correct in that she is probably making wrong assumptions based on your reaction, that it's about her, and not you. Maybe you could just show her one of your scars, without saying anything. Idk. I don't have any friends right now and I'd hate to see this create a rift in your friendship when you both need each other. And you'll hate yourself until you make this right, or at least make your best effort.
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Since you've abandoned me My whole life has crashed Won't you pick the pieces up Cause it feels just like I'm walking on broken glass -----Annie Lennox |
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#7
Oct 17, 2013, 07:44 AM
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Thanks guys, we've sorted everything out and we're all good now
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| Anonymous100108, technigal
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