[sheiba]

I was reading a post on need for physical touch does anyone know why just a touch or brush by someone, especially my husband almost blankets me in to feel safe , like the person cares for me but as soon as the touching stops the feeling goes away is it my BPD do people without my illness feel comfort like that all the time? that safe content feeling is that normal? does anyone know how i can keep that feeling?????????

i'm usually the other way round, actually

i don't like being touched as much- but i get the same feeling you describe when someone is close and is thinking of me

[allme]

I crave physical contact...hugs and holding hands as much as I can! Have always been a tactile person with SO.

[Wolf81tx]

I am a non BPD. I have an interest in a girl who is. She is kind of funny about being touched. Sometimes she wants/needs it. Others she prefers no contact. She has to be in the right mood for it which is true for a lot of people. Timing is everything with BPD and everyone is different.

[hawaii04]

How we can all be so different and yet so much alike Sometimes I can't get enough touch, and at other times it seems suffocating. In my earlier years, I needed the touch to feel loved/needed, now mentally I still seem to want that . . . but my feelings are more of the stand-offish and shutdown variety and I'm not feeling a whole lot of those better feelings these days. Irritable, frustrated, angry . . . . I tend to push away/avoid. That really bothers me in a relationship . . . . I find it very hard these days to get close at all.

[atomicc]

Originally Posted by Wolf81tx

I am a non BPD. I have an interest in a girl who is. She is kind of funny about being touched. Sometimes she wants/needs it. Others she prefers no contact. She has to be in the right mood for it which is true for a lot of people. Timing is everything with BPD and everyone is different.

Yeah, I'm exactly this way., I'm either all over you and clinging or I don't want you near me and touch physically hurts me.

BPD (to me) pretty much is the perpetual hot & cold thing. Sometimes you can not live without it. Sometimes you can not stand living with it.

I think BPD is just a nice way of saying that we are self-destructive and will never get better................

Originally Posted by Useless Me

BPD (to me) pretty much is the perpetual hot & cold thing. Sometimes you can not live without it. Sometimes you can not stand living with it.

I think BPD is just a nice way of saying that we are self-destructive and will never get better................

I can relate to the hot and cold thing all too well.

Dealing with the aftermath of switching cold and *****y (again) right now.

The self destructive part is so damn frustrating. I feel like there is a part of me that must love the pain, the rollercoasters, the intense emotions. Why else would someone keep reaching in the fire and then break down and cry about getting burned for the millionth time My choice of poison happens to be a unhealthy relationship.

I hate myself for this.

Its a never ending cycle.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Hot and cold for me too. Sometimes I want touch all the time, but if I'm in a mood, I don't want to give or receive touch at all. I try really hard to overcome that, especially when it comes to my son and his need for mommy love. It is hard though, I either want it all or none at all.

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