I just worked through a two day long period of depression by using a DBT skill called "Tolerate The Moment". I believe it's covered in the section of the book called "Distress Tolerance", but don't quote me on that cuz I flunked out of DBT 8 months into a 12 month long program two years ago.
It's one of those skills that's easier to talk about than actually do. Many of us BPD's feel very intense emotions, and at least for me, sometimes the intense emotions/thoughts don't pass right away. My old DBT T told me that no matter what, the emotions would pass. Even though in many cases it really doesn't feel like it. and he's right. I thought for sure this last period of intense depression was here to stay for a while, because it went on for nearly 3 days. but I "Tolderated The Moment" and didn't resort to drinking or lashing out. Now that it's passed I feel a lot better and see things with a lot more clarity.
I wanted to share that with you guys because I know using DBT skills in your life with success can be difacult, but it's totally possible. FOr me I get mixed results. Sometimes using skills helps and sometimes it doesn't. but in general I'd say that it does and I'm glad to be going back to DBT to give it another go.
Also I was curious, what is the BPD check in thread? For some reason it shows me the latest pages last, so I haven't been able to locate the OP to read what it's all about. but I see people replying in it all the time but I see it gets replied too a lot.
Hope everyone is having a good day.

I'm glad you could use the DBT skills to help you and that you're feeling better now

The check in thread is just a thread where you can post and say how you feel and whats going on for you on that day.

Originally Posted by secretwhisper

I'm glad you could use the DBT skills to help you and that you're feeling better now

The check in thread is just a thread where you can post and say how you feel and whats going on for you on that day.

Ah thank you.

[MoxieDoxie]

I have never done DBT but apparently i have been using that skill. I tell myself this to shall pass all.....i have to do is hold on long enough and not do anything that would require me picking up the piece after the crisis has passed. I also keep saying over and over that it is never as bad as you think it is going to be. I catasrophize so bad it causes most of my avoiding and isolating.

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

I have never done DBT but apparently i have been using that skill. I tell myself this to shall pass all.....i have to do is hold on long enough and not do anything that would require me picking up the piece after the crisis has passed. I also keep saying over and over that it is never as bad as you think it is going to be. I catasrophize so bad it causes most of my avoiding and isolating.

That's awesome that you have been able to use that skill pretty regularly to cope. even without priar experience with DBT.
It's a skill I've had a tough time with my entire life, so I had to share too because I was proud that I didn't self destruct like I usually hve in the past.

[hawaii04]

This is encouraging to me; I'm glad for you . . .thank you for sharing this.

Originally Posted by hawaii04

This is encouraging to me; I'm glad for you . . .thank you for sharing this.

Thank you, and I'm glad my experience can provide encouragement.

[Zabine]

Well done, I have been out of DBT for a while, it can be difficult to keep the skills up if you don't use them. Do you use the skills workbook? Since I live in the boons there is no plausible place for me to do DBT, the book is the next best thing, that and keeping in touch with some of the girls I was learning with.

I plan on getting a copy of the skills work book. and it looks like I'm going to have to travel 30 miles one way (so 60 in total) 3 times a week in order to get back into DBT, but I'm determined. Yeah it will suck but I need the help badly.
I've been using DBT Self Help and that's sorta helped some.