[facingdemons]

Do any of you plan out conversations with people before you have them? Like... almost obsessively.

It's worst when I'm driving by myself (and I commute 10 hours a week). I plan out what I'm going to say to people, for big and small conversations. (everything to my first visit with the new doctor to what I'm going to say to my boyfriend when I pick him up.) I script it almost. I come up with responses to what I think they'll say. I drive myself crazy with this.

I even pre-planned this post for 20 minutes on the way home from dropping my boyfriend at work.

[foreverlonely]

Originally Posted by facingdemons

Do any of you plan out conversations with people before you have them? Like... almost obsessively.

It's worst when I'm driving by myself (and I commute 10 hours a week). I plan out what I'm going to say to people, for big and small conversations. (everything to my first visit with the new doctor to what I'm going to say to my boyfriend when I pick him up.) I script it almost. I come up with responses to what I think they'll say. I drive myself crazy with this.

I even pre-planned this post for 20 minutes on the way home from dropping my boyfriend at work.

Yes, I do that all the time. I have the whole conversation in my head for me and the other person. I also don't know how it helps the real conversations.

[Starling.]

I do to a certain extent, but never really to the point it bothers me. I always assumed everyone did it! :P It sounds like it can be really difficult for you though, I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

[technigal]

Originally Posted by foreverlonely

Yes, I do that all the time. I have the whole conversation in my head for me and the other person. I also don't know how it helps the real conversations.

This is me! Especially with my husband if it is something we need to talk about!

[pleaseilluminateme]

All the time. Though, a lot of the times I never actually get to say the things I planned. So I spend hours a week, thinking about every word, every detail to every conversation, and a lot of it doesn't even get used.

I do the same thing. It's especially bad when I'm able to zone out listening to music or something.
I plan my posts out too lol.

[facingdemons]

Originally Posted by pleaseilluminateme

All the time. Though, a lot of the times I never actually get to say the things I planned. So I spend hours a week, thinking about every word, every detail to every conversation, and a lot of it doesn't even get used.

This! I often don't get to say a lot of what I have planned... I almost practice the conversation over and over in my head, but it rarely goes the way I plan.

[facingdemons]

Originally Posted by ThroughBeingCool

I do the same thing. It's especially bad when I'm able to zone out listening to music or something.
I plan my posts out too lol.

Yep! In the car with the music on, I get so stuck in my head planning out what I want to say to people.

[Jordy]

I always do... and get upset when the person in front of me does not respond the way I want him to. Because then my next answer is completely off and I can't use it.

Worst is in therapy when I try to lead to a subject that's really difficult to me, but as my T has no clue this is happening we end up not mentioning what I wanted to talk about. I know I should tell her, but just can't...

[dumburn]

Originally Posted by Jordy

I always do... and get upset when the person in front of me does not respond the way I want him to. Because then my next answer is completely off and I can't use it.

When the other person fails to stick to the script it totally does my nut!
Even though I know they didn't even know there was one, let alone have the opportunity to sneak a peek to get an idea of what they were supposed to say.

[beloiseau]

YES. I often plan out imaginary fights with people too.

I do this too. Conversations never ever go the way I plan them though, the other person alway messes it up! I plan fights like beloiseau too, they never go how I plan them either though and all my witty comebacks tend to get wasted

[youwillrise]

i do when i can...absolutely.

sometimes i plan whole conversations and then i still just sit there all quiet and awkwardly...blarrgh lol

oh and speaking of imaginary fights...on a semi-similar note

do you ever have a fight with someone...and then you think about it later...and all of the things you SHOULD have said pop into your head, so you have the fight all over again in your mind with your new thoughts/ideas? yeah...that's me.

Originally Posted by youwillrise

i do when i can...absolutely.

sometimes i plan whole conversations and then i still just sit there all quiet and awkwardly...blarrgh lol

oh and speaking of imaginary fights...on a semi-similar note

do you ever have a fight with someone...and then you think about it later...and all of the things you SHOULD have said pop into your head, so you have the fight all over again in your mind with your new thoughts/ideas? yeah...that's me.

Yep, all the time!!

[dumburn]

Originally Posted by youwillrise

oh and speaking of imaginary fights...on a semi-similar note

do you ever have a fight with someone...and then you think about it later...and all of the things you SHOULD have said pop into your head, so you have the fight all over again in your mind with your new thoughts/ideas? yeah...that's me.

almost obsessively, i often waste entire days doing this.

[youwillrise]

Originally Posted by dumburn

almost obsessively, i often waste entire days doing this.

same! it can be so annoying and draining.

[ready2makenice]

Yes I also do this,thought I was the only one,and thought I was going crazy what a relief to know that I'm not alone in this

[River11]

Thank you thank you all of you!! I do all of these things !

I sometimes not only work on how to express something tricky to my husband for, like, two days (and it's only a fairly basic sentence or two once I get there) but then I'll say it over and over in my head for another day before I can say it to him.

And it's so good to 'hear' that others also plan out their posts ...