[Angel of Bedlam]

So I have always been one to be meticulously put together. Though recovery, this has gotten better, but I am still meticulous about how I look- even going so far as to take 2+ hours to get ready for a day, even if I don't leave my house. Does anyone else do this? Is it a BPD, or just me thing?

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Originally Posted by Angel of Bedlam

So I have always been one to be meticulously put together. Though recovery, this has gotten better, but I am still meticulous about how I look- even going so far as to take 2+ hours to get ready for a day, even if I don't leave my house. Does anyone else do this? Is it a BPD, or just me thing?

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yes. >.> I do. My mascara takes forever O.O... :P sorry had to respond. But I know what you mean, I've had a few friends like that. I'm sure you're not alone.

[Maranara]

Sorry....that one isn't me. I'll do that on occasion, but overall I just don't care. Drives my husband crazy because he thinks I don't care about myself. I do...just not so much what shows on the outside.

[beloiseau]

I used to NEVER leave the house without makeup on, and would often just put it on even if I didn't go out. Now, I'm lucky if I shower everyday thanks to my depression. But, if I go out without makeup I'm constantly thinking self-critical thoughts and am paranoid people are looking at me negatively.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by beloiseau

I used to NEVER leave the house without makeup on, and would often just put it on even if I didn't go out. Now, I'm lucky if I shower everyday thanks to my depression. But, if I go out without makeup I'm constantly thinking self-critical thoughts and am paranoid people are looking at me negatively.

I've finally stopped myself from constantly doing my hair and makeup, but I do the same thing... I hate how I look, especially without being done up.

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[technigal]

My sisters are like that but not me. I hate doing my hair and very rarely wear makeup. Most days my hair is in a pony tail and my face is washed. I have super sensitive skin and cannot shower every day. I was a teen during the 80's and I never got into the big hair, lots of makeup thing.

[beloiseau]

Originally Posted by Angel of Bedlam

I've finally stopped myself from constantly doing my hair and makeup, but I do the same thing... I hate how I look, especially without being done up.

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It's so hard to go out feeling like I don't look my best. Body image issues lol. Hugs, you're not alone!!

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[GeorgiaGirl413]

This is not me. I do well to just look presentable.

Originally Posted by beloiseau

It's so hard to go out feeling like I don't look my best. Body image issues lol. Hugs, you're not alone!!

Without trying to sound too creepy.... but based on your pic - you have no worries (and NO, I am not hitting on you - I am far too old and ugly for any living person).

[beloiseau]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

Without trying to sound too creepy.... but based on your pic - you have no worries (and NO, I am not hitting on you - I am far too old and ugly for any living person).

Haha thanks. That was a good day!

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Originally Posted by beloiseau

Haha thanks. That was a good day!

Sure.... I have know people like you... you ALWAYS have good days. Some of **us** never have good days.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by beloiseau

It's so hard to go out feeling like I don't look my best. Body image issues lol. Hugs, you're not alone!!

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I'm just glad that other people feel the same way. I look like garbage today, not feeling rue greatest about myself (by that I mean dwelling in self-hatred :/).

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[hawaii04]

I have always been sooo self-conscious and hate that feeling. I can remember when I was young my mom called me vain (just being a young gal wanting to look nice) and it hurt me because underneath it all I felt ugly ~ I had to check, check and recheck. As I have gotten older I've learned that no matter how much time I take or what I do, I'm still me and pretty much am the same. Though I never wore much make up, it was always hair issues (never liked its 'character). From time to time I would kinda experiment and do my bare minimum with make up and hair to go somewhere and see how I felt. When I am admired even with someone else just being of a friendlier disposition with me with more of a natural look, I feel good. I'm not out to impress everyone; I guess I still try to impress myself. I was only partially honest with myself in that I was doing such for me. I hate spending much time getting 'ready' but I also don't like it when the UPS man shows up and I'm in mop style. LOL I always have to feel acceptable at least.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by hawaii04

I have always been sooo self-conscious and hate that feeling. I can remember when I was young my mom called me vain (just being a young gal wanting to look nice) and it hurt me because underneath it all I felt ugly ~ I had to check, check and recheck. As I have gotten older I've learned that no matter how much time I take or what I do, I'm still me and pretty much am the same. Though I never wore much make up, it was always hair issues (never liked its 'character). From time to time I would kinda experiment and do my bare minimum with make up and hair to go somewhere and see how I felt. When I am admired even with someone else just being of a friendlier disposition with me with more of a natural look, I feel good. I'm not out to impress everyone; I guess I still try to impress myself. I was only partially honest with myself in that I was doing such for me. I hate spending much time getting 'ready' but I also don't like it when the UPS man shows up and I'm in mop style. LOL I always have to feel acceptable at least.

I've put on weight and at this point, I have that voice inside telling me there's no point in trying. I'm hideous from the weight gain. I am dieting fairly strictly (how I lost all the weight), and I'm crossing my fingers that it's going to work.

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[hawaii04]

For me the weight thing means everything, yet nothing. I still haven't put it all to rest. I start getting panicky if I gain 5 pounds ... after being like a yo-yo with weight all my life, it's like a crutch of crippling. Something I lean on, perhaps for control along with how I allow it to make me feel either way. In the end I can feel like I've 'fallen' if I should gain what is too much in my eyes. It seems like a disease, and I wonder if everyone who keeps 'fit' does so for the same reasons. I wish I could say it was primarily about my health. You can reach your comfortable weight, and it isn't pointless, but we need not let it control our happiness to which it becomes yet another problem. I try to remind myself that there certainly are more important matters in life. I want to find the balance of both internal and external beauty. If we feel good about ourselves inside, then the outside tends to follow suit. I love your pictures; you are a pretty girl. Good luck with your diet!

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by hawaii04

For me the weight thing means everything, yet nothing. I still haven't put it all to rest. I start getting panicky if I gain 5 pounds ... after being like a yo-yo with weight all my life, it's like a crutch of crippling. Something I lean on, perhaps for control along with how I allow it to make me feel either way. In the end I can feel like I've 'fallen' if I should gain what is too much in my eyes. It seems like a disease, and I wonder if everyone who keeps 'fit' does so for the same reasons. I wish I could say it was primarily about my health. You can reach your comfortable weight, and it isn't pointless, but we need not let it control our happiness to which it becomes yet another problem. I try to remind myself that there certainly are more important matters in life. I want to find the balance of both internal and external beauty. If we feel good about ourselves inside, then the outside tends to follow suit. I love your pictures; you are a pretty girl. Good luck with your diet!

Thank you. It will be the 2nd time in a year that my weight has fluctuated by 40-50. I totally get the yo-yo thing you mentioned. I can't wait for it to come off!!!

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[youwillrise]

im quite the opposite. i rarely try. dont wear makeup, sometimes ill dress nicer, but even when i try it doesnt seem like i did. im not fashionable. im not cute. i really see no point in wasting my time.

[technigal]

Originally Posted by youwillrise

im quite the opposite. i rarely try. dont wear makeup, sometimes ill dress nicer, but even when i try it doesnt seem like i did. im not fashionable. im not cute. i really see no point in wasting my time.

I can relate.

[foreverlonely]

I try always to look my best. It makes me feel in control. It is the easiest thing for me to control and to be very disciplined. If I let this go I have lost my battles.

[lynn808]

I never used to leave the house til I was perfect...haha..those days are over. I can barely get dressed any more. So I can relate to both sides of this. Just take each day as it comes and try to make it through. I stopped caring what other people think...well I try to...cant do it all the time tho...good luck