[Maranara]

I thought this might be a fun thread. I am the queen of impulsiveness and I'm certain a lot of you guys are too and I thought maybe we could share some. I'll do anything when the "trapped" "I need to escape" feeling kicks in.

My worst impulsive act was moving 2,600 miles from Florida to Idaho. I'd just been abandoned by the first friend I'd made in over 20 years and I was scared he would have me arrested if I approached him. I felt the need to escape and was given the means so here I am. It was pure BPD, I knew exactly what I was feeling and why, but the feeling lasted close to two months, as long as a bipolar manic attack, and here I am over a year later, starting my 2nd winter in the frozen North. I found PC during this period.

[Truth in Ruin]

Thanks for this post, and sharing your story Maranara.

I went to a new car lot to look at cars, and I ended up buying one when I only intended to look.

[technigal]

Two years ago at Christmas time I was fighting with DH and decided to leave him. I rented an apartment for January 1 and then made arrangements to fly back home leaving my job with no warning. I took something DH said the wrong way and thought he was suicidal so I took our son with me. Before I even got on the plane I knew it was wrong. I was able to change the tickets to come back home earlier and be home for Christmas. It was hard on all 3 of us. I really regret doing that. I was in a rage and my "friend" kept fueling the rage. I was able to see my mom one last time so that was good but the rest was just wrong.

[Maranara]

Originally Posted by technigal

Two years ago at Christmas time I was fighting with DH and decided to leave him. I rented an apartment for January 1 and then made arrangements to fly back home leaving my job with no warning. I took something DH said the wrong way and thought he was suicidal so I took our son with me. Before I even got on the plane I knew it was wrong. I was able to change the tickets to come back home earlier and be home for Christmas. It was hard on all 3 of us. I really regret doing that. I was in a rage and my "friend" kept fueling the rage. I was able to see my mom one last time so that was good but the rest was just wrong.

I'm glad you changed your mind in time. I left my two grown daughters and the only job I ever loved to move out here, and I have no way to return.

[ADDithers]

Just about every action in my life is by impulse - i simply don't have the capacity to sit down and plan anything in an orderly way. For starters, when I was 16 years old I ran away from home without the slightest bit of forethought. That was almost 50 years ago. To this day it still baffles me why I did it without thinking.

The other day I read about some garden ornaments that were on sale - before I knew what I was doing I was loading up almost 30 of them - a total bill of over $500. WHAT got into me!!??

[greentires4me]

I made about 10k when I was working on my own instead of saving it I spent it all on this wicked volunteer vaca and when I came back I came back with a 1K bursary which was just enough to pay for my cellphone bill.

[medicalfox]

The most impulsive thing I had done that I could think of on the top of my head was buy a chameleon in a different state while I was on vacation. Since it was on impulse I had to buy literally everything for him which costed me hundreds. I eventually gave him to a friend in a different state since I already had enough pets at the time.

[Jordy]

I have two, first one is 2006 I needed some "me-time" away from my family. So within days I organized a two week vacation in the French Alps with my horse. Was supposed to stay for two weeks, ended up staying two months.

Ans I've bought my second horse totally on impulse. Tokk me a couple weeks to buy him, but I felt like I would die if I didn't... Turns out it was a bad idea as he's got major health issues, but I'm still keeping him. At the moment I'm struggling not to buy a third one, but I've learnt my lesson.

I've also adopted a pony on impulse, worst decision in my life from a financial stand point. I simply couldn't afford him... he died 1 1/2 years later. And I'm glad I could give him a nicer life for that time.

[Maranara]

I was raised with a very stingy dad and a gigantic awareness of money. With the exception of once, when I got my first credit card, I don't think I ever impulsively overspent money. Most of my impulsiveness comes from sudden, strong emotion that I don't know how to handle.

[beloiseau]

Most impulsive thing I've ever done... There's probably quite a bit, but smoking marijuana, having random sex, going over to a guy's house after only having just met him, spending more money than i should on useless items... I can't pick just one! I didn't realize how impulsive I was lol

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I have to admit - that just seeing the word "impulsive" kinda freaks me out. Cuz it is exactly what I am trying to avoid - or I will likely be a stain on the highway.

That being said - recently was doing 105mph on my motorcycle (just got my 1st motorcycle this past spring). Shifted into neutral, hands off the handlebars and closed my eyes for a couple seconds and just went with it..... kinda like a "titanic" moment.

[Silent Void]

I used to impulsively buy things for people I knew for no good reason. I bought one person a horse and a truck. Is that nuts or what?

Psychosis broke that spell. Now I don't give away a dime except to buy my mother groceries.

[Jordy]

Not impulsive yet, but the next Backstreet Boys cruise is going on sale 1/7/14 and I'm already actively figuring out a way to afford it. I now I should not book it and will try not to, but it will be really difficult.
Last two cruises I kept telling myself I wouldn't book until I'd be sure to be able to afford it, and both time I booked during the first week. And I've realized I'll have the money for the deposit! Resisting will be so difficult!

I think the worse thing that could of ever been invented is online shopping, I am very impulsive when I am feeling down, I have spent money on holidays/vacations £3000 money I don't have at all, I have bought Laptops when I don't need them, Buy clothes that I never wear, I am very Impulsive indeed.

[Starling.]

I'm usually not very impulsive. Probably a bit on the boring side! Sometimes when I start feeling better I get a bit overexcited. Most recently I spent too much money on buying new clothes and picking up about 10 new hobbies (I really will learn to play that guitar one day...) and slept with someone I had never met before. First time I have done anything like that, and I'm not proud of it. Do realise it could have been worse though, and hopefully will not be repeated.

[shezbut]

My teenage years were extremely impulsive and dangerous..and I somehow made it through to my 40's. Recent impulsive moves are spending lots online through both ebay and Victoria's Secret. I have too many bras, way too many undies, work-out outfits, and teddies that I've never worn!

I get my enjoyment from looking & buying. A little enjoyment comes when I get them in the mail...but I think that the emotional fill comes from picking stuff out and buying it. I don't know why!

I think that reason kicks in by the time I get the items, and that's why I then avoid wearing the clothes. I kick myself a lot for this bad habit!

Stealing? Drugs? The whole kit and caboodle really...

[Maranara]

Originally Posted by shezbut

My teenage years were extremely impulsive and dangerous..and I somehow made it through to my 40's. Recent impulsive moves are spending lots online through both ebay and Victoria's Secret. I have too many bras, way too many undies, work-out outfits, and teddies that I've never worn!

I get my enjoyment from looking & buying. A little enjoyment comes when I get them in the mail...but I think that the emotional fill comes from picking stuff out and buying it. I don't know why!

I think that reason kicks in by the time I get the items, and that's why I then avoid wearing the clothes. I kick myself a lot for this bad habit!

Just a thought...if you've never worn them and the tags are still in place, you could sell them on eBay or some such and recoup some of your losses. Just a thought. If you're interested and would like some advice, let me know. I've been an eBay seller for about two years.

Probably leaving my b/f/job/friends/life behind, going to asia for 6 months, travelling in a 3 some. My life never recovered

[Jetfire1911]

I quit my job of almost a year right after I moved into my new house. Not smart when you have double the bills to pay >.>

[pleaseilluminateme]

In a matter of a couple days, I made the decision to and did move to Denver, from South Dakota, where I knew nobody. I drove through a blizzard to do so. Couldn't afford to live there after 2 months. Then decided to move home to Hawaii, bought a ticket, then decided to move back to South Dakota, and I've regretted that decision every day. And I've also quit multiple jobs when I have no way of supporting myself otherwise.

[ADDithers]

Originally Posted by Jetfire1911

I quit my job of almost a year right after I moved into my new house. Not smart when you have double the bills to pay >.>

I quit a very good job at a well established stock brokerage firm to chase some illusive butterfly - I walked away from it just before a trip to the Bahamas that I had won - figured with this new opportunity I could make triple the money & just go to the Bahamas on my own - while my former colleagues were on the trip the butterfly got squished

- although through the years, not every impulsive decision I made was the wrong one - for that I am thankful

[Side of the Angels]

Randomly went into a college and signed up to be a paralegal. I have no interest in law... I was so excited though and it took my husband and evening to talk me down from it and I had to unenroll the next day...

[joeyalias]

Great thread maranara

I spent my entire student loan on a 4 day weekend clubbing session, had to drop out for the year. :/

[Maranara]

The attachment that brought my BPD to the surface. He was angry and refused to talk to me or text with me and hung up when I called which lead to severe abandonment issues coming out. I went to his house, banged on the window. I pretended to leave and when the door opened I attempted to barge in the house. I didn't leave until they called the cops on me, who forced me to leave. It was this incident that convinced me to leave. He threatened me with a restraining order and harassment charges and I knew if I stayed I'd eventually be arrested.