[shezbut]

Maybe triggering ~ I'm pretty damn mad at my boyfriend here.....................

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I am having a very hard time managing my anger with my boyfriend right now ~ he has pushed me away very hard & I'm tempted to tell him off. Him telling my some BS that I'm sick & everyone that is sick, he is pushing away, because he doesn't want to get sick.

Well, let's be freaking honest here. How often does a boyfriend (or girlfriend) want absolutely no visual or physical contact because the other one has a cold or flu?? Ugh...almost NEVER!! We've been together for 4 years! What the hell?! I don't recall this ever happening before. Damn right I'm wondering what is going on!! I have stuff in his apartment that I was looking at in that moment, thinking about bringing them with me, and he told me to leave. It's not like I was all over him, coughing and sneezing. Not a cough, sneeze, or sniffle occurred when I was there.

So, yeah I flipped him off and slammed the door as I left his apartment .... but we live in the same apartment building! What a jerk! If he thinks that I'm going to forgive him for this crap, and justify him for being rational, he's freaking dead wrong! To me, this is ridiculous!!

Am I right, or what??!

[Elektra_]

hi there. ur definitely right. thats quite ridiculous. has he been strange?

[shezbut]

For the past couple of days, he's been completely removed. I didn't call or go to his place on Sunday (because I felt so crummy), and he didn't call me either. Strange, because he didn't know that I was sick yet. And he almost always calls in the evenings, so he knows what's for supper.

[Elektra_]

someone told him? then definitely something is up. hopefully he'll contact u to solve whatever u guys need...

[Maranara]

I don't have any good advice for you other than it sounds he's definitely pushing you away for whatever reason, real or conceived he may have. I know how that can anger and totally ruin your self image. I'm always here if you want to talk, and don't forget that you have friends here.

[technigal]

It definitely sounds like he is pushing you away.

[shezbut]

That's how I feel ~ like he's pushing me away. Sad. And then I quickly become very angry and hurt. I don't get "life". I don't think that I ever will understand it...

[Trippin2.0]

I'm so sorry Shez
I agree with the others, you have every right to be mad because he does seem to be pushing.

I hope you 2 can talk and get to the bottom of this.

[Elektra_]

any news? did u solve things?

[Longing2Exhale]

hugs

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[shezbut]

Originally Posted by Elektra_

any news? did u solve things?

I think so. I know that sounds funny (strange), but it's confusing. I went up to Eric's apartment on Thursday morning, with an armload of "his things". Eric was kind to me ~ asked for a hug & kiss.

Then, I broke up with him. We both cried, and then reassured one another how much we cared. Then, we cried some more as we talked about my girls & his family (we're both attached). Eric suggested that we do take things more slowly. Then we went to bed together & have seen each other every day since.

I feel better now, but I'm also confused as to what our relationship is considered! I guess that things are solved. Thank you for asking ~ sorry I hadn't given an update earlier.

[Maranara]

Best wishes to you no matter what happens. Think of yourself and your girls first. Everything else comes second, and I'll be thinking of you.

[allme]

Originally Posted by shezbut

I think so. I know that sounds funny (strange), but it's confusing. I went up to Eric's apartment on Thursday morning, with an armload of "his things". Eric was kind to me ~ asked for a hug & kiss.

Then, I broke up with him. We both cried, and then reassured one another how much we cared. Then, we cried some more as we talked about my girls & his family (we're both attached). Eric suggested that we do take things more slowly. Then we went to bed together & have seen each other every day since.

I feel better now, but I'm also confused as to what our relationship is considered! I guess that things are solved. Thank you for asking ~ sorry I hadn't given an update earlier.

Aw glad you worked things out A lot of arguments are down to not communicating with each other. I'm glad you did in the end and now all is ok

[Elektra_]

awww glad things worked out.. did he explain why he was more distant??

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by Elektra_

awww glad things worked out.. did he explain why he was more distant??

Hmmm...no, he didn't.

[Elektra_]

sooo u didnt solve things.. just came to the conclusion ur both too attached to end it? humm think u should definitely sit down and talk about what u both want from this relationship and if there is something that isnt right, to work on it. tc