[henrydavidtherobot]

I felt the guy who I was seeing pulling away from me. I asked him why he was being dismissive and he got all defensive about how he was distracted because of work. We also had a misunderstanding about when he was supposed to come into town and see me. Now, he appears to be ignoring me. I didn't do anything wrong! I am so hurt that someone would treat me like this in general, but especially on the day of my play and Valentine's Day. I am so hurt.

Seriously, why is it THIS hard to find a mature respectful guy. He has been an angel up until now. He is 5 years older than me. Why can't guys even dignify you with a response? Then everyone is all like, "you're dating the wrong people." Well then, what do the right people look like? They are always nice for the longest times. My guys friends tell me that it's because I date attractive people. Idk wether to take that seriously or not.

I am so angry and sad. I want to cry, but I am in public now. My car is in the shop and my move has been postponed. I seriously can't take this right now

[technigal]

I am sorry you are having such a rough day.

I have found that good guys are hard to find. I kept dating the wrong guys, the users and abusers. In many ways I am surprised that I found my DH, he is the proverbial "nice" guy. I was already in my 30's when we met and had given up on finding anyone.

[henrydavidtherobot]

I just don't know how much more of this I can take.

[technigal]

Originally Posted by henrydavidtherobot

I just don't know how much more of this I can take.

I wish I had a magic wand to take away your pain. You are going through so much right now. I know it can get better for you but it is so hard getting to that place. I am around when you need to talk.

[lynn808]

henry,
so sorry to hear you struggling today hun........
It so hard when ppl run from a relationship...this
is a stressful holiday for us...so many expectations....so much pressure...families...friends...ppl we don't know....ppl we do know... its tough for ev1...please be ready to forgive other and ourselves at the end of today.....

This is the day I used to hide in a darkened room for hours, so no one knew where I was. I have gotten over much of that and can now be out of the dark, but still cant celebrate this day.... cant go in public--or anything like that....its getting that I cant even leave the house sometimes....

I know it will get better for you....I am here if you ever need me...I hope you pm me anytime you need to just chat!!!!!

Now go break a leg!!!!!! let me know how you did and hugs and more hugs for you!!!
keep me posted!!!!

[live2ski66]

Sometimes good guys don't respond because they are afraid to cause you more pain or they just don't know what to say. You have a lot going on in your life. I assume he is picking up on your energy and probably is wondering where he stands with you when you go to China. He might be afraid to invest too much if you will leave him when you move to China. I wish I knew my own advice when I was married to a pretty good guy, but we didn't communicate and I kicked him out of my life.
For what it's worth, I recommend you go somewhere without distractions and talk. Because I tend to monopolize the conversation I found the following method of talking that gives both parties a fair shot. You take a timer, say 5 minutes, don't go more than 10. You start the timer and the first person says what is on their mind, how they feel, what they fear. One subject. When the time is up, the person listening paraphrases what the first person said. This is to make sure both are on the same page. Once you agree, the timer starts and the second person can respond, express their opinion, etc. I know it sounds tedious, but it is a great way to address difficult things in a "civilized" manner with positive outcome. You don't have to do all the issues in one session. Pick 2-3 issues, have your exchange of ideas, feel better and go out for ice scream, share an ice scream cone in honor of Valentines Day.
I really think this guy likes you but he doesn't know where he stands with you. If you decide to try this, let me know how it works for you.
Good luck! I'm thinking of you and if you want to talk, feel free to PM me.