[littlemiss44]

I work in a very public environment. It gets tough with people who don't say Thank you! I demo food at a warehouse store and about 80% of people don't say a simple Thank you! It may sound stupid but for someone with bpd it's rough. I take it so personally and I let it ruin my peace and of mind. I get triggered with rude inconsiderate people. It's total disrespect. I also get really triggered when my boss shows frustration. I have a horrible startle response and today she was mad and threw something. I know this is part of my abusive child hood but no amount of therapy can calm these nerves. If I am making any sense can anyone relate to what I'm saying?n Thx

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I used to live in Milwaukee - I found many of the people to be surprisingly rude. It is not the nature of most people from Wisconsin.

I do not think what you are seeking is unreasonable, for people to act with simple common courtesy.

*HUGS to you

[dumburn]

I've come to not expect manners from the public.
I remember my first job working in a cafe, and after a few month I was completely thrown when a customer actually said please when placing their order, it hadn't occurred to me up to that point how rarely people say please and thankyou - most (certainly not all) just demand and expect.

Nowadays I'm getting used to the rudeness of people, not just the lack of basic manners , but occasional full on the abuse I get just for doing my job.

[beloiseau]

I take a lot of stuff personally too... It's hard, and you're not alone in your feelings. Little things like someone cutting me off, not holding a door, etc can really tear me down.

I need constructive criticism because I know it is necessary and makes me better, but i hate it!

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[littlemiss44]

Thanks you guys for responding. I'm so glad in not alone. I actually live in milwaukie Oregon. I find that oregonians are more polite but I'm not feeling that way anymore. taking things personally is a common trait of bpd. At least for me. I wish I could be more care free and not care but I do. I talked with a coworker yesterday whom I trust. I told Her I struggle with mental illness but I didn't expose exactly what I have. Her point of view is that Everyone has some sort of chemical imbalance. I disagreed with her. It's easy for someone to say that who doesn't struggle with a real diagnosed illness. I have bpd and bipolar 2 depression, anxiety and ptsd. These are very real to me. Once again I took it personally that she would say that. She didn't mean to be disrespectful as she is a very sweet gal. It's just ignorance of people who don't truely struggle with it. Anyone else have dual diagnosis?

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[bpdtransformation]

Try to remind yourself that if they would treat you - a food sampler that they've never met before - that way, then they would treat pretty much anyone that way. So the problem is in them not you, and there is no objective reason to feel personally insulted (although there is objective reason to look down on them as having bad manners!). I know that's easier said than done.

[littlemiss44]

Ur right. It is not me but I have a hard time with humanity when this happens. Do people even realize how rude they are? I don't think so!

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