[SaraSkyblue]

I don't know how to hold a conversation with someone. It's really bothering me cuz I just started a new job and I want to talk to people, but I don't know how...and when I try it's just weird and awkward and people just walk away v_v I grew up an only child out on a farm, never got to go to friend's houses really, and never had many friends. I never learned social skills. I mean yea, I talk to people....but it's SO hard for me...and it gives me anxiety...and you can TELL it sounds forced /: What can I do? How do you learn these things? I tried just looking at how other people talk...but it doesn't really help. I'm soon to be 21 and don't know how to socially interact with people, how dumb is that? So...yea. Anyone have any advice or anything? And I know I might not seem as bad here...and that's cuz typing is SO different. And I have a lot of time to think, sometimes these posts I make take HOURS to finally get the words out right. UGH. >__<

[Verity81]

Are you trying to find things to talk about? When I do that it sounds forced.

I think if you find people who have the same passions and hobbies as you do then you won't have to find things to talk about as you will want to share your ideas and comments with them.

[SaraSkyblue]

Originally Posted by Verity81

Are you trying to find things to talk about? When I do that it sounds forced.

I think if you find people who have the same passions and hobbies as you do then you won't have to find things to talk about as you will want to share your ideas and comments with them.

Even then, I don't know how to say things. I'm just so awkward >__<

[wing]

You described it well, Sara. I feel the same way, and am just putting myself out there, then trying to deal with the anxiety with DBT techniques.

[mommymushbrain]

I think this problem is twofold... I know I'll attach quickly to anyone, or I question the motive as to why someone would want to talk to me in the first place. But also my personality is introverted so I have a hard time being personable anyway. But I have no problems hiding behind a computer screen! It's my safe zone!

Being awkward is something I can understand personally. I have times when I can be talkative with people and other times I cannot. it's part of how I am. I am introverted for the most part and rather socially awkward myself.

If I have a good reason to say something, I am ok and do but that's when the conversation goes blank. After the initial small talk I kind of have no idea what to say or if I have something to say it's very difficult to get it out. For example I see the ladies that work at the coffee shop i frequent 6 days a week. The know what I like, that's how often I am there. This morning the owner even said to me "I thought you forgot about me today" since I was about 2 hours late coming in there. After I said "no I just woke up late" and gave her my order, the awkwardness sets in and I just feel so unable to do anything else. I've said a few things here and there but it never becomes a serious conversation.

Is that what you mean?

I wish I had a solution but I too am still looking .