[hotchicken]

Woman gets jealous easy. Very sexually promiscuous. Cheats all the time but acts like its no big deal and doesn't use word cheat. But if someone else does something bad like cheat, she will let them know about it.

Makes people feel guilty. Constantly on phone, texting, talking all day and night, mainly with men.

Talks about and thinks about sex all the time.

Lies all the time. Makes plans, then says there is something else she has to do. Always late. Will say stuck in traffic but it is a lie.

Has 4 kids. Posts all great things on facebook, about cleaning house, making food, etc. But house is really a mess!

Never has a job. Lazy. Lives on child support.

Very outgoing and friendly. But uses it to get away with things. Persuades people to do what she wants.

In her 40's now. Slept with about 50 - 100 men by time she was in her 20s.

[unaluna]

I wouldnt necessarily say borderline. Those actions could be done by anyone? There could be different reasons that started a lot of the activities. Jealousy came from say a favored relative. Promiscuity came from CSA. No job came from a learning disability or no breakfast (for Catholics) so problems at school. So i dont see a borderline diagnosis based on what youve described. Could be several things, could be she gets away with it so why not?

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by hotchicken

Woman gets jealous easy. Very sexually promiscuous. Cheats all the time but acts like its no big deal and doesn't use word cheat. But if someone else does something bad like cheat, she will let them know about it.

Makes people feel guilty. Constantly on phone, texting, talking all day and night, mainly with men.

Talks about and thinks about sex all the time.

Lies all the time. Makes plans, then says there is something else she has to do. Always late. Will say stuck in traffic but it is a lie.

Has 4 kids. Posts all great things on facebook, about cleaning house, making food, etc. But house is really a mess!


Never has a job. Lazy. Lives on child support.

Very outgoing and friendly. But uses it to get away with things. Persuades people to do what she wants.

In her 40's now. Slept with about 50 - 100 men by time she was in her 20s.

could be anything, not necessarily borderline..without a diagnosis hard to pin down, i'm guessing she has no intention of being diagnosed either!

[atomicc]

Nothing you mentioned even closely resembles myself or anyone I know with borderline personality. The things you mentioned do not relate to the criteria for BPD whatsoever.

[shortandcute]

It sounds to me like you don't like her for some reason.

Originally Posted by hotchicken

Woman gets jealous easy. Very sexually promiscuous. Cheats all the time but acts like its no big deal and doesn't use word cheat. But if someone else does something bad like cheat, she will let them know about it.

Makes people feel guilty. Constantly on phone, texting, talking all day and night, mainly with men.

Talks about and thinks about sex all the time.

Lies all the time. Makes plans, then says there is something else she has to do. Always late. Will say stuck in traffic but it is a lie.

Has 4 kids. Posts all great things on facebook, about cleaning house, making food, etc. But house is really a mess!

Never has a job. Lazy. Lives on child support.

Very outgoing and friendly. But uses it to get away with things. Persuades people to do what she wants.

In her 40's now. Slept with about 50 - 100 men by time she was in her 20s.

No I wouldn't say this is BPD but there is a quiz on here to test yourself.

[henrydavidtherobot]

We are not able to diagnose anybody. However, nothing you said sounds like BPD. I don't mean this in a mean way, we all come from different levels of understanding, but it sounds to me like you obtained your understanding of BPD from media instead of scholarly articles. For one, manipulation is not always a symptom of BPD.

I agree with shortandcute that it sounds like you don't like her.

One more thing. There was a strong emphasis in this post about promiscuity. Casual sex is NOT a symptom of a mental disorder. This idea that a woman has a mental disorder because she has lot of sex is harmful to women and those living with mental illness.

I'm not trying to be mean here--just honest.