[jean17]

I'm not complaining (I think). I am really thankful that I have the opportunity to take part in this therapy. It's just that the Group aspect of it is very challenging for me.
I'm an extreme introvert and have GAD as well as a Social Phobia. My DBT group is small; just 5 of us counting 2 therapists. So of the 5 of us, 3 are very chatting, vocal folks. I do get my turn when we discuss our homework, but after that I mostly listen while the others talk. I try to stay calm, but I do get a bit frustrated.
Also, I'm really not sure about trying to change myself. I'd rather try to accept myself.
Must try to explain how I feel to my therapist in our private meeting.
Just wondering how anyone else is doing with DBT?

[technigal]

I only did the skills portion of DBT and it was for 18 weeks. I had great therapists running the program and they always tried to make sure that each of us had turns talking about things or going up to the board.

I would definitely mention it to your individual therapist. Group therapy is not for everyone.

[Kimaya]

I'd like to give it a go, but I am afraid I won't commit.... I think group therapy would work well for me, I enjoy meetings at work and hearing other people's perspectives. I am sorry you are having a hard time of it. But like technigal said, to each his own and if it isn't working for you, say something GL!

[josiecuervo333]

I am afraid of therapists.. They always try to do their voodoo magic. And have me work through traumas, all it does is deeply upset me... and make me so tired. EMDR works for some people, at this stage in my life I found it causes more problems then it solves by upsetting me.. and causing emotional turmoil. I did EMDR last week, my daughter showed me a dead mouse and I had a completely adverse reaction to it.. it was just a dead mouse but I completely panicked.. my PTSD kicked up and I remembered my grandmother making me shovel up dead puppies on a cold fall night in new mexico.. My heart rate accelerated, I was screaming and in a complete state of terror.. It was odd. EMDR always causes odd emotional reactions after the fact.. I am undecisive.. very stressed.. disconnected from every person I shouldnt be. I am not having emotional breakdowns today.. its more like I am numb.. but my nerves are wrecked. my anxiety is up.. its like a quiet panic attack because every decision I make at this point will hurt one person or another.. I need a change, but for somewhat selfish reasons.. because I cant take it anymore where I am at.. But my daughter is here. Even if its only temporary.. I dont know what else to do.. I actually just selfishly want to run away. But I cant.

[jean17]

Originally Posted by josiecuervo333

I am afraid of therapists.. They always try to do their voodoo magic. And have me work through traumas, all it does is deeply upset me... and make me so tired. EMDR works for some people, at this stage in my life I found it causes more problems then it solves by upsetting me.. and causing emotional turmoil. I did EMDR last week, my daughter showed me a dead mouse and I had a completely adverse reaction to it.. it was just a dead mouse but I completely panicked.. my PTSD kicked up and I remembered my grandmother making me shovel up dead puppies on a cold fall night in new mexico.. My heart rate accelerated, I was screaming and in a complete state of terror.. It was odd. EMDR always causes odd emotional reactions after the fact.. I am undecisive.. very stressed.. disconnected from every person I shouldnt be. I am not having emotional breakdowns today.. its more like I am numb.. but my nerves are wrecked. my anxiety is up.. its like a quiet panic attack because every decision I make at this point will hurt one person or another.. I need a change, but for somewhat selfish reasons.. because I cant take it anymore where I am at.. But my daughter is here. Even if its only temporary.. I dont know what else to do.. I actually just selfishly want to run away. But I cant.

Pray that you are feeling better. Sounds hard. Take good care of yourself.

[haleylaurel]

i hated group DBT. the other people's problems were too much for me. i do solo dot now.

[haleylaurel]

Originally Posted by jean17

I'm not complaining (I think). I am really thankful that I have the opportunity to take part in this therapy. It's just that the Group aspect of it is very challenging for me.
I'm an extreme introvert and have GAD as well as a Social Phobia. My DBT group is small; just 5 of us counting 2 therapists. So of the 5 of us, 3 are very chatting, vocal folks. I do get my turn when we discuss our homework, but after that I mostly listen while the others talk. I try to stay calm, but I do get a bit frustrated.
Also, I'm really not sure about trying to change myself. I'd rather try to accept myself.
Must try to explain how I feel to my therapist in our private meeting.
Just wondering how anyone else is doing with DBT?

i feel DBT just distracts from the problems and tries to change my whole personality.

[Nxi2]

Originally Posted by jean17

I'm not complaining (I think). I am really thankful that I have the opportunity to take part in this therapy. It's just that the Group aspect of it is very challenging for me.
I'm an extreme introvert and have GAD as well as a Social Phobia. My DBT group is small; just 5 of us counting 2 therapists. So of the 5 of us, 3 are very chatting, vocal folks. I do get my turn when we discuss our homework, but after that I mostly listen while the others talk. I try to stay calm, but I do get a bit frustrated.
Also, I'm really not sure about trying to change myself. I'd rather try to accept myself.
Must try to explain how I feel to my therapist in our private meeting.
Just wondering how anyone else is doing with DBT?

Hated it, gave up. I tried CBT, as I'm a very science minded person, and it worked for me. Not all therapy is good therapy, and for BPD, bad therapy often makes us worse. Be careful!