[Serra27]

It's taken me to the age of 30 to realize and accept what I suffer from. I try so hard, and have since I can remember, to fit in. To fit in, be 'like everyone else', be "normal", yet I realize, I am not and I am learning to accept that. Life is hard to live having BPD. The range of emotions and the brief time periods of them, are exhausting. Medication helps but there is no cure. It's tiresome. So tiresome. BUT I do have 3 children, 3 amazing children, and an amazingly strong significant other, who I cannot give up on. It's late, I just got home from work; this is my first post, and this is just a little about me...hope all of you, us, can get a little rest tonight, and find a little peace, even for a moment.

Hi there, Serra27 ! It's nice to meet you, and welcome to PsychCentral. It really is a great forum with a lot of great people.

I feel your pain I'm also 30, and I've only known about my condition for a couple of years. You seem to have a good understanding of BPD. Yup, there's no real cure ... we just have to slog it out, step by painful step. It does help to hear others' stories, painful as they may be. It also feels good to be here for others

Again, welcome, and I hope you find this place comforting and helpful !

[glok]

“We find that people's beliefs about their efficacy affect the sorts of choices they make in very significant ways. In particular, it affects their levels of motivation and perseverance in the face of obstacles. Most success requires persistent effort, so low self-efficacy becomes a self-limiting process. In order to succeed, people need a sense of self-efficacy, strung together with resilience to meet the inevitable obstacles and inequities of life.” ~Albert Bandura

Hello, Serra27. To accept does not mean to capitulate. The quest for abatement/remission can continue.

[Mustkeepjob32]

I hear ya as it is so hard to keep on with BPD. It's encouraging that you are working. I have horrible anxiety and have a hard time keeping jobs. I hope that comes to end someday.