[NoChildSupport]

I over analyze almost everything. I always study people's actions to see if they really love & care about me like they said. I try sooo hard not to do this. I can't understand why it's so important to me. My standards are too high. How can I lower them & still be okay? How can I accept the fact that I am loved without reading so deep into everything? How do I deal with jealously? I know this is selfish & I hate myself for it but I need all of the attention I can get. I hate competition. I KNOW it's not all about me but I can't help but feel like I'm a last priority & I'm too boring to hold anyone's interest. I don't even know if I WANT constant attention but I KNOW that I NEED it. I feel emotionally sick & tired. Sometimes I feel like cutting & burning myself. I do sometimes. I want to stop for good but nothing helps as much. I am driving myself crazy with these stupid obsessions I can't seem to get rid off. It feels like an evil spirit is weighing too heavy on me. Billions have it worse. WHAT'S MY EXCUSE???!

[Astriferous]

That's what I'm going through, too. I'm afraid I can't give you any advice, but you DO have an excuse. You're feelings are valid. Humans feel things, sometimes more intensely than others.

If you wanna chat, I'm here.

Same here xxx

My only way of dealing with this, and I know that this is an extreme solution, is to HAVE ZERO EXPECTATIONS FROM OTHERS AND BE SELF-SUFFICIENT.

[Serra27]

How do we deal with jealousy? I don't know how...I apologize, this does not help at all...but I feel you, and you are not alone.

Originally Posted by Serra27

How do we deal with jealousy? I don't know how...I apologize, this does not help at all...but I feel you, and you are not alone.

I'll tell you how I deal with it - I think about my next workout ... which muscle groups I'm going to exercise, and my next meal.

I also love this wonderful thing called dissociation It's awesome ! Whenever I feel jealousy, my mind automatically reaches the depths of outer space. As the seconds pass, a picture of myself in God's arms emerges, and I feel safe and grounded again. I then move on to the next painful part of my miserable existence.

[NoChildSupport]

I have this thing where I get to the point where I feel nothing at all. I like that feeling. I don't know how to induce it.

[Onward2wards]

((((( NoChildSupport ))))

I'm going to throw the political correctness manual out of the window and say "jealousy is in fact human and understandable". Everyone seems to feel a degree of jealousy when a social link is threatened or other people's are (or even seem to be) better than theirs. Any insecurities about being able to create or hold on to meaningful social links will only amplify it. The specifics of those insecurities and their origins will vary from one person to the next.

What makes the critical difference is how we deal with that. Do we continue to jump to worst-case conclusions, or stay mindful of what's really happening and set appropriate boundaries, etc? Do we open up and communicate, or close down and ruminate? Do we acknowledge and value or own feelings, or do we stuff them down or avoid them such that they only "explode" somewhere later? Do we truly listen to others, or do we continue to "filter" what they are saying and doing without being aware of it, in ways that feed our own fears?

There's no need to beat yourself up over "getting it wrong". A lot of people get it wrong.