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Aug 27, 2014, 04:10 PM
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This isn't really a question, I just wanted to see if others have dealt with the same thing. I've realized my relationships with people seems somewhat similar to being on drugs. I meet somebody, they make me feel a certain way, & I quickly become attached. When I'm away from that person, I go through withdrawls. I'm craving, their love & attention. I'm focused on getting my next fix. Sometimes it gets real bad & I'll cry hysterically & harm myself in some way. When I see or talk to them again, I feel at ease. Some of my relationships weren't healthy. There were too many problems which contributed to my dysfunction. But I continued to go back to them because they made me feel better about life. It's incredibly hard to function without certain people. I keep dealing with them, repeating the vicious cycle. I can't let them go. I see nothing better. I'm pretty sure some of you can relate.
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Aug 27, 2014, 04:46 PM
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Yes and even when you have been through the withdrawal and weaned yourself off completely, there's still chance of a relapse, just a text from them asking how things are and you're straight back in that place...
I avoid relationships because of this reason, like I avoid drugs.
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Aug 27, 2014, 05:51 PM
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That's what I'm dealing with right now, actually.
Sometimes I think it's best to avoid people all together...
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Aug 27, 2014, 07:04 PM
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This is why I've become antisocial.
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Aug 27, 2014, 07:04 PM
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Aug 27, 2014, 07:10 PM
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Aug 27, 2014, 07:32 PM
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Aug 27, 2014, 09:09 PM
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This is a touchy subject you cant really stop having relationships w peole. Thats not healthy. You would def need to have a cut off point with your attatchment issues. So hard to do though I know all about this I suffer from this myself. It is almost impossible to control when you meet people you connect with.
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Aug 27, 2014, 09:26 PM
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I'll be honest, I completely understand, and feel exactly the same way. I even warned him in the beginning, I am best off alone. I should be. All I do is hurt, push, harm, shove, love, give, yet hold back, dispense all emotion upon, this person I claim I love. Which I do, but I don't show it very well. I am best off alone, bc he deserves better than me, and I am too psycho all the time to be with him. I don't know how he is still putting up with me. Hugs.
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"Those who feel the breath of sadness, sit down next to me. Those who feel they're touched by madness, sit down next to me. Those who find themselves ridiculous, sit down next to me." Borderline Personality Disorder, Anxiety, Self-injury Meds Abilify Zoloft Ativan |
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Aug 27, 2014, 09:56 PM
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I put my boyfriend through hell with my constant need to be loved which he gave his all and I continued to hurt him dont know how I still have him in my life. with all these issues being spoken of here, this discussion hits me at my core
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| Anonymous100185, Onward2wards, Serra27
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Aug 27, 2014, 10:32 PM
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Aug 27, 2014, 10:36 PM
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Aug 27, 2014, 10:38 PM
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Dont apologize I meant this topic is familiar to me I am glad im not the only one.
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Aug 27, 2014, 10:40 PM
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I don't know the specifics of your relationship, but I'm guessing your guy is probably having the time of his life knowing that he has the upper hand in the relationship and playing you like a puppet. Damn it, people.  We need to realize our worth ! These ignorant nons aren't doing us any favors by being with us. We deserve their time/love/attention as much as, or more than, they deserve ours.
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Aug 27, 2014, 10:40 PM
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I was just giving a little info for my situation thats all. No worries
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Aug 28, 2014, 01:10 AM
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Science asserts that deep affection IS like a drug; the brain can't help but start throwing dopamine, oxytocin and endogenous opioids around like candy on Halloween night.
 That being said, I don't think it's necessarily a good thing to avoid all deeper connections due to interaction issues of various kinds.
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Aug 28, 2014, 02:03 AM
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I can understand what you are saying completely the only person i am not like this with is my female best friend, my partner is a terrific bloke but i feel i am pushing him away lately i am distant and not emotional at all. But when he tried to leave to give me space i was devastated I self harmed and went into a pit of depression I had to have him back . I suffer from bipolar and BPS so my changing moods are always a problem When im manic i suffer from hyposexuality and this is causing a problem for me at the moment as I am trying my hardest to avoid people but like you said they are like a drug and i am addicted to the attention xx
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