I've found that writing lists of goals I have for self-improvement or just goals in general help me feel a bit better. Make a list of your own if you want. Doesn't matter how long or short your list is, and you can of course add more as often as you like.

mine:

1) exercise more
2) become fluent in French
3) live instead of merely existing
4) force myself to find something positive, and allow myself to smile about it
5) make more friends
6) stay sober
7) sit with my feelings, don't react
8) start journaling regularly
9) stop being so hard on myself
10) learn to control my obsessive thoughts
11) accept that I can't be perfect but understand that that doesn't mean I'm worthless either
12) love myself
13) expose myself to social anxiety-inducing situations & overcome social anxiety
14) forgive myself

and adding more.

What an awesome topic ! Thanks for starting this wonderfully positive thread

My list so far:
- Build LOTS of muscle
- Become an NASM certified fitness trainer
- Train hundreds of people and help them feel better about themselves
- Fully accept (I'm 97% there) that I will be ALONE for the REST OF MY EXISTENCE
- Learn to speak German fluently
- See the Aurora Borealis
- Learn to be more diplomatic with the people I know are assholes
- Learn to be more compassionate with the people I think are assholes but know are not
- Find a healthy way to cope with jealousy when I see couples holding hands or kissing or just being in the same car
- Overcome my social phobia/anxiety ... crowds, parties, large gatherings in general
- Visit New York city
- Fully forgive all the people who mistreated me
- Become an expert at tying hangman's knots

[atomicc]

What a great idea!

-study as hard as I can
- work on my self confidence
-go to sleep at a reasonable time
-pay more attention to my job

[nymphea]

I think we need more positive threads like this on here.

-focus on school/career goals
-work out more often
-learn to cope with thoughts
-be motivated to overcome things
-take care of myself more
-live everyday as a new day

[ifst5]

I like what Stephen Fry said about Goals in that once they've been achieved - what then? Do you make more? What happens when they're achieved? More importantly, what happens when you don't achieve them?

I don't like goals. I believe in taking life as it comes. Just my opinion though. I understand the importance of goals to others.

[Espresso]

I think my only goal is to exercise more. I've never really had any goals in life.

Originally Posted by ifst5

I like what Stephen Fry said about Goals in that once they've been achieved - what then? Do you make more? What happens when they're achieved? More importantly, what happens when you don't achieve them?

I don't like goals. I believe in taking life as it comes. Just my opinion though. I understand the importance of goals to others.

I hear you. Valid points made.

I see goals serving as a distraction from the pain and suffering. That's one great purpose they serve.

[misfit77]

Okay-now I am pulling out my counsellor hat. When it comes to goals writing them down is important, but you will have more success with them if you break them down into smaller goals-and use the SMART goal formula:S-structured, M-measurable, A-Achievable, R-realistic, T-Timely.

If your goal is to exercise more ask yourself: why do I want to exercise more? How will I exercise more? How will I measure my success? When will I exercise? Do I anticipate any barriers and how will I over come them?

I can't add a link right now because I am on my phone, but if you google SMART goals there is a lot of stuff on the formula. I find it's very helpful. Hope it helps you achieve yours! :-)

[Astriferous]

This is a really great idea, thanks for starting this!

-Get better grades.
-Study as hard as I can.
-Become more comfortable with solitude and embrace my introversion.
-Become more mindful of my emotions.
-Be more active in social justice.

Originally Posted by ifst5

More importantly, what happens when you don't achieve them?

For me, just having something to work for is better than not having any goals. And I haven't set anything unrealistic or anything. It gives me somewhat of a sense of purpose that I don't have otherwise. If I don't set goals I'm going to get down on myself constantly like I was and probably do destructive things again.

I don't like goals. I believe in taking life as it comes. Just my opinion though. I understand the importance of goals to others.

That's interesting... though life kind of stands still for me & doesn't come at me on its own unless I go and make something happen which takes a lot of effort on my part.