so i told my mum about my BPD she didnt say much, started to talk about herself for a bit after. i dont know i feel weird i dont know i am kind of scared too i just feel really strange, what did it feel like when you guys told a family member about your BPD?

The decision to tell my parents was taken out of my hands, my bf at the time decided to share all for me.... I think I was scared too. I had hidden how I was for so long and suddenly it was all out in the open. It took some getting used to...

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by secretwhisper

The decision to tell my parents was taken out of my hands, my bf at the time decided to share all for me.... I think I was scared too. I had hidden how I was for so long and suddenly it was all out in the open. It took some getting used to...

that sucks. how nice of the bf to share personal information taht wasn't his place to share. I hope you made it clear to him not to do things like that anymore.

@OP, try not to fret over it. it's just something that you deal with and you aren't less of a person because of it, so no matter what others think, remember that and stand tall.

I guess I am just scared now she will take me even less seriously and she already thinks I am crazy and ugh it is hard to explain and I just I don't know I guess I am feeling weird cause I don't trust her ugh I just I don't even know anymore.

[AlmostHappyattimes]

I told my parents, my step dad didn't understand but my mum took it well. I felt relived personal, i spent since i was 13 trying to find out.

I dont know my mum was just kind of like well you dont really seem like you have it which annoyed me cause she is NEVER around and ugh i dont know i just feel bad. I dont know.

[AlmostHappyattimes]

Originally Posted by eden1515

I dont know my mum was just kind of like well you dont really seem like you have it which annoyed me cause she is NEVER around and ugh i dont know i just feel bad. I dont know.

I wouldn't worry to much about it tbh.

I know i just feel bad

[Laelia]

Do you feel like you didn’t get the response you were hoping to get out of her? I must say it sounds disappointing and I can see how it might even be potentially triggering if she just acted like she didn’t understand or believe it or something… Maybe you can talk to her about it more in depth later on when you feel a little bit calmer about it…

[Trippin2.0]

My family doesn't know, they'd never understand, so I've never mentioned it.


It was no problem sharing my BP dx though, so I just allow them to think its all BP related.


Only PC, my psych team and bf knows I have BPD dx as well.


I don't trust anyone outside of that group with this DX, not because I'm ashamed or afraid of stigma, I just don't trust anyone else to not be invalidating.


I'm sorry you didn't get the response you needed, maybe you subconsciously anticipated it,which explains why you don't trust her.

I think I just wanted to feel like she cared but I don't think that will ever happen. And I don't trust her because she has hurt me too many times before. I think it also just reminded me how alone I am. Ugh I just don't know what to do anymore.

When I told my sister, it was an awkward time - we had just had a fight and she wasn't interested in anything that I said - I sent the info through an email. After things calmed down, she and I talked and was open about it and was actually supportive - she hasn't gotten a diagnosis, but she feels she identifies as we are twins and grew up in the same dysfunctional household.

I haven't told my mother - she denies that I have depression and wasn't supportive at all about that, so I am hesitant to tell her about BPD - even though she displays a lot of the BPD characteristics herself.

I wish I could tell her because I want her to get help too, but she's unwilling to look in the mirror and face some difficult things. Can't force her. But, I'm also not going to give her ammunition to hurt me.

Yeah i dont think i will tell my sisters i just feel like bad i mean i dont even know how to explain it i just ugh i dont feel good.