[artes11]

hi! please be nice when replying this is my first time posting in a forum about mental health and i'd really like some friendly advice... even if it's plain and simple

i'm very, very certain that i have BPD, i've been experiencing symptoms since i was still in primary school (elementary school for americans?). it's been years now and i only learnt about personality disorders and whatnot last year. i am almost 100% certain i have BPD... i experience symptoms in everyday life

but my problem here is that i've been to a psychologist and psychiatrist. the first one was extremely dismissive about my problems, pushy and grouchy so i could never feel i could bring it up to her because i didn't really trust her. then the next told me i felt emptiness and that's normal for a teen but she completely brushed off all my other symptoms! i feel like no one will take me seriously and just say it's "teen angst" because i'm, well... a teen.

i need help on how to bring it up to my next psychologist, and yes it's important to me, i want to bring it up. could someone please offer advice?

[crosstobear]

You're a teenager. All teens have hormonal imbalances and act angsty. Do NOT seek a borderline diagnosis. You'll be dismissed and shat upon for the rest of your life, and the more you identify with the diagnosis, the less you are willing to take responsibility for yourself.

Instead, take no diagnosis and work on any BPD-like behaviors you have on the DL.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by artes11

... i'm very, very certain that i have BPD, i've been experiencing symptoms since i was still in primary school (elementary school for americans?). it's been years now and i only learnt about personality disorders and whatnot last year. i am almost 100% certain i have BPD... i experience symptoms in everyday life

I had the exact same experience. At 20 I told my therapist that I thought I had BPD and she was insistent that I did not even though I meet all but one of the critera and you only need five. She told me "I've never met anyone before that wanted a serious personality disorder."
I said, "I don't WANT it, I just think I have it."
I didn't get help for it, it wasn't until a therapist started doing DBT with me that I really started to feel better. You can emphasize the stuff that you do that meets the criteria, but really regardless of what they think your dx is, you can work on what is causing you the most trouble. There isn't a pill that treats BPD so getting it as an official diagnosis will not change your treatment plan with your psychiatrist. I agree with crosstobear, if you're too insistent they will dismiss you.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by crosstobear

You're a teenager. All teens have hormonal imbalances and act angsty. Do NOT seek a borderline diagnosis. You'll be dismissed and shat upon for the rest of your life, and the more you identify with the diagnosis, the less you are willing to take responsibility for yourself.

Instead, take no diagnosis and work on any BPD-like behaviors you have on the DL.

^ This post sums it up perfectly. You're a teenager and let me tell you from experience that BPD is NOT something you want on your psychiatric records. It'll be there for the rest of your life, and you'll deal with stigma from the very professionals that are supposed to diagnose and treat it. It is not worth it to get a diagnosis that very well may not apply to you as you mature into adulthood, heed my warning. I only say this because I've faced the stigma of having this disorder from professionals time and time again, and you're still growing up. All teenagers can act like borderlines, narcissists, sociopaths, and so on. It's natural. Growing up is damn hard, I'm not saying it isn't. But allow yourself to be a teenager, to grow up. If you're still having problematic symptoms as an adult you can revisit the issue but for now, focus on solutions to your problems instead of getting a label for them.

[random_emotion]

I think its better not to officially have the diagnoses of BPD because doctors look at BPD like big giant red flag and don't want to deal with you

[crosstobear]

Originally Posted by random_emotion

I think its better not to officially have the diagnoses of BPD because doctors look at BPD like big giant red flag and don't want to deal with you

Exactly. Coming from a clinician, you're on point. Everyone has BPD tendencies. Its just that treating BPD is frustrating in a managed care medical-model system. Don't box yourself into a stereotype. You're a human, OP. PD's are human adaptations to ****** environments.

[Unrigged64072835]

My daughter was the same way. She didn't get the diagnosis but she did get treatment. At least she doesn't have it hanging over her head like I do.