[coldtothetouch]

So I just found out that I most likely have BPD. Like, I took several different tests designed by psychologists and they were all in the extremely high range. I'm terrified.
I see the way people with BPD get treated and I'm so scared that people will leave me/not treat me right/hate me/not take me seriously because I have so many other problems.
What should I do?

[dancinglady]

Who is giving u these tests? Make sure if u r taking them
Only trained psych professionals can give you a diagnosis.

[Pierro]

Hello coldtothetouch, I know there is a stigma attached to BPD, but you do need to get a formal diagnosis and take it from there. If you had these tests online I would urge you to see a real life professional. Keep posting.

Best wishes

[WibblyWobbly]

Getting the diagnosis is scary but it's also validating to realize that your behaviors are not uncommon and attributed to this disorder. I'm not sure who you're afraid is going to stigmatize you, but I have had good luck in not being judged. My treatment team is supportive and everyone I've told outside of professionals has been empathetic. My family is passing around a book written for family of people with BPD and my friends have done quick online research and then quickly forgotten the label. They say all they care about is that I get better. I'm just one example but hopefully it helps.

[coldtothetouch]

Thank you all. I'm going to try to get a formal diagnosis soon, but I still am not sure how I'm going to go about getting any kind of actual treatment outside of the diagnosis.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by coldtothetouch

So I just found out that I most likely have BPD. Like, I took several different tests designed by psychologists and they were all in the extremely high range. I'm terrified.
I see the way people with BPD get treated and I'm so scared that people will leave me/not treat me right/hate me/not take me seriously because I have so many other problems.
What should I do?

Definitely see an actual in person therapist, don't self-diagnose based on online tests. I once took a quiz that said I was probably bipolar and I am definitely NOT bipolar. Some people might not take you seriously because of "problems" but those are people you don't want in your life. I have a great therapist, an awesome career, and a boyfriend of over a year who is very supportive. I have my "borderline" moments and he just waits for me to calm down or asks me to please wait until tomorrow to decide if I'm going to break up with him, lol. He's extremely understanding, sometimes I'm afraid he's too good and nice to be with me! But in those moments I just remind myself that everyone deserves a healthy supportive partner, even people who aren't perfect - which is literally everyone.

[coldtothetouch]

Originally Posted by DBTDiva

Definitely see an actual in person therapist, don't self-diagnose based on online tests. I once took a quiz that said I was probably bipolar and I am definitely NOT bipolar. Some people might not take you seriously because of "problems" but those are people you don't want in your life. I have a great therapist, an awesome career, and a boyfriend of over a year who is very supportive. I have my "borderline" moments and he just waits for me to calm down or asks me to please wait until tomorrow to decide if I'm going to break up with him, lol. He's extremely understanding, sometimes I'm afraid he's too good and nice to be with me! But in those moments I just remind myself that everyone deserves a healthy supportive partner, even people who aren't perfect - which is literally everyone.

Thank you very much for the advice. I'm definitely going to seek a professional diagnosis.

I echo what DBTDiva said about not self diagnosing. Let us know how it goes with a professional.

[Fuzzybear]

[Unrigged64072835]

Originally Posted by DBTDiva

Definitely see an actual in person therapist, don't self-diagnose based on online tests. I once took a quiz that said I was probably bipolar and I am definitely NOT bipolar. Some people might not take you seriously because of "problems" but those are people you don't want in your life. I have a great therapist, an awesome career, and a boyfriend of over a year who is very supportive. I have my "borderline" moments and he just waits for me to calm down or asks me to please wait until tomorrow to decide if I'm going to break up with him, lol. He's extremely understanding, sometimes I'm afraid he's too good and nice to be with me! But in those moments I just remind myself that everyone deserves a healthy supportive partner, even people who aren't perfect - which is literally everyone.

I agree. You can still have a good life even with BPD. Just make sure that a professional identifies this. They will probably interview your full history so they can determine the best diagnosis.