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Apr 20, 2016, 08:55 PM
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So I've mentioned before that my ex had custody of my children. He put my younger daughter in care. My mum and I have been assessed for custody. My mum passed her assessments and I failed mine. I failed because I went to A and E and told them I was suicidal which I was and that I tried to (( trigger)) cut my self with a blade which I did but it was blunt. Of course social services found out and because of this I'm on supervised visits with my daughter . this is hard for me but also my mum was relying on me to help out. I can help out with money , but I can't take my daughter to activity clubs and other things . its my fault. I should have suffered in silence. I don't know how long it will be supervised visits for . life is hard. Should I forgive myself for going to hospital ????? Am I just stupid???
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 dancinglady, Fuzzybear, shezbut, technigal
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#2
Apr 20, 2016, 10:31 PM
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Don't know what to say
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Apr 20, 2016, 11:22 PM
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Apr 21, 2016, 07:35 AM
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Maybe if you work really hard and complete all the programs they will decide you are a fit parent. Looks like you need to jump through many steps. Remember they are doing this in the best interests of your children. Still don't understand why they are giving custody to your mom when they have a grown adult child with many problems that shows her lousy parenting skills. Is she taking parenting classes?
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#5
Apr 21, 2016, 07:37 AM
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Sorry you are struggling. Now that it is over can you go impatient and get some intensive therapy.
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#6
Apr 21, 2016, 02:22 PM
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Medical records being shared. That completely sucks.
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| cryingontheinside, shezbut
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Apr 21, 2016, 02:23 PM
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Apr 21, 2016, 02:31 PM
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Forgive yourself. You had to do the right thing at the time. You needed help.
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Apr 21, 2016, 02:34 PM
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Don't you think the terminology is belittling? "Fit parent" ....
 Are They really such good Judges? Sometimes I wonder... But yeah I'm another grown adult child with many problems which could point to the parents "lousy parenting skills"  Quote:
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Apr 21, 2016, 02:39 PM
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It would be nice if they actually do provide effective intensive therapy
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Apr 21, 2016, 05:15 PM
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Apr 21, 2016, 11:37 PM
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((((cryingontheinside))))
That is a really tough position to be in, as a parent. You absolutely DO deserve to get help, and your children deserve to have a healthy mom too.  I know how hard it is to be away from your children due to illness. I've been there. I am not real proud that I was in the hospital a few times, as my girls were so young. But, I am happy to have a regular set-up in their lives now & we love one another openly. That's the part that I try to focus on, to keep myself going. I'd recommend that you do the same thing, for yourself, to get into a better state of mind. Gentle hugs to you.
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#13
Apr 22, 2016, 06:36 AM
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I was a lousy parent at times. Aren't we all? No use crying over it. Push on and re-create your life to be a better parent. Look at your mistakes and own them and be a better parent from now on.
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