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Jun 06, 2016, 09:38 PM
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We've had one 'date' as some would call it. We attended High School together. My brains already cooking do many possibilities. We got on really well.. but I like her more than just a mate, she interests me.. I dunno my head is spun in a bad way. I don't take rejection too well judging from past experience.
Should I just ask her how she views me next time we meet? we've had super casual convos thus far.. |
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Jun 07, 2016, 10:49 PM
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This is probably more of a personal preference so I will explain it as if I asked myself your question
"Should I ask her how she views me?" No, because eventually I will find out how she views me after we have more conversations and I don't want her to feel I am moving to fast and need answers about what she thinks of me, I want to look calm and cool like I just flow with life and don't worry about immediate answers and results. But honestly it's entirely up to you. Have you asked yourself why you want to know how she views you?
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Jun 08, 2016, 08:20 AM
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Falling for someone is simultaneously the best and worst experience. As a BPD our emotions are all over the place. It gets worse when we know our feeling are requited. Then there's the thrill of possibility but also the fear of abandonment.
The problem with how we experience these early stages of what may or may not develop into something more is our penchant for overcomplicating things. My advice? Take it easy. Keep is casual and lighthearted. After a few more dates (if this actually happens) it'll become clearer if she's into you. Just be mindful of overthinking things and bringing that intensity into the mix.
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Jun 16, 2016, 08:04 AM
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I agree with Luctor. Although inside you just want to explode and put it all on the table, have your reserves. Keep something for yourself, she doesn't need to know all of you at once. I think you will do yourself a favor long term. Let me know how it goes. Good luck!
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Jun 17, 2016, 07:09 PM
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I agree as far as taking it easy and getting a few more casual dates under your belt before you hit her with the heavy stuff. I know it's hard but it can be done.
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