Rejection

I have been talking to this guy and we were suppose to go out for dinner in the future but I am feeling this empty feeling inside, He isnt even my type, I just looked at him as a friend, We talked on the phone this weekend and I wrote him on Sunday, I have not heard any thing back since, I do this to myself all the time, I analyze every thing, Did I say this wrong, Did I say that wrong, It drives me crazy, I should not let it bother me and have the attitude he just lost a friend, But its that rejection feeling that I feel in my gut, Like I said I didnt even look at him as boy friend material, So why am I so upset

I have a hard time with the whole "___ just lost a friend. It's their loss, not mine." Half a year ago I told my psychiatrist that my close friend had suddenly stopped talking to me at the time and blocked me, and she told me that I can't take it personally. "Not everyone will get along." I wish I could view it in such a simple way, but any sort of rejection hurts a lot I feel it right in my gut. I re-read the last part of what you wrote and realize that you also described feeling the sensation of rejection in your gut. I think it goes to show how deeply it affects us in comparison to other people.

Pastel Kitten, It is almost like a actual sick feeling in your stomach, I am glad I am not the only one that feels this way, I wish I didnt take things personal but I do

Exactly. I could describe it sometimes as a sick feeling, and other times as a "panging" feeling, like I was zapped in the gut.

Definitely a don't-think-bad-of-me-please-talk-to-me-even-if-its-to-explicitly-reject-me sick feeling.

It's amazing how shallow friendships are for some. It's normal that it hurts. It's normal to want to save a friendship.

Explicit rejection is more transient.

Like zapping.

Bridges burn too easily and need too much (continuous) maintenance.

That's a good thing. It separates the wheat from the chaff. We are great at true friendships.

We're actually very good all round.

Oh man, I'd definitely prefer being told directly that a person doesn't want to talk to me anymore over being ignored. That hurts badly and causes so much anxiety.