[zijax]

I do not like being rejected. I get angry. I want to leave. Underneath it, I feel defective. Not quite good enough. This happens as a pattern especially in social relationships. i.e. I text someone and invite her to coffee and they don't even text back. I am not invited to be on the board of so and so but my friend is. I ask a lady to sponsor me and she says no. Now there may be good reasons to these rejections and I know I shouldn't take them personally. But I do. They turn into resentments. Not good for an alcoholic. Resentments cause us to want to drink. I have to be careful. How to deal with rejection...anybody know???

[Pastel Kitten]

I so relate to this. My old psychiatrist told me I need to stop taking such rejections (or perceived rejections, in some cases) so personally...but I can't stop the hurt I feel from it. Being left out of anything feels so horrible. For instance, my boyfriend was invited to hang out with a group of friends for one of their birthdays a little while ago. I wasn't invited because I haven't met them, and it was kind of a "guys' night out" sort of situation, which is completely understandable. Nonetheless...I felt hurt and couldn't stop thinking about how much fun they're having without me, and unrealistic beliefs that his friends don't even want to meet me since I wasn't invited. I especially got jealous later when I heard they were drinking a little without me.

[Pastel Kitten]

I don't have much advice sadly...I can only relate ...

[Unrigged64072835]

I can relate. Rejection turns me into a big sobbing mess. Though I haven't had it much lately I'm still working on getting a thicker skin. You'd think at 51 I'd have it by now.