[StarBlue]

I think it's time to do a bit of housecleaning and realizing that the flooding of emotions - negative view and everything else that comes with it needs to be entirely separated from that enticing DRAMA thing that we've been conditioned to do.

It's the drama.
It's not the emotions.

By themselves emotions are cool, they are fine, they are normal, they keep us tapped in to nature and others and the cosmos. With drama they cause all the havoc, insanity, instability, craziness in the world for us and others.

Drama is like meth combined with nature. Nature is us. We are beautiful creations. Created in the image of the Creator. Nothing more perfect than this.

Then comes DRAMA. Drama is the negative aspect of the universe. It's underbelly of creation. It's the negative of the positive. If you've ever seen a photo film developed - you've seen the negative. It's where the white should be - there is black. It's all opposite. It's where splitting begins. That is the genesis of DRAMA.

To heal BPD all we need to is REMOVE the drama from our lives and get into a space of chill.

What is chill - chill is acceptance, blessing, receiving, being cool with what is. DRAMA is forcing reality to change.

Just for today - we will stop the drama and accept one thing for what is - without trying to change it.

It is what it is because there's a lesson there for us to learn. Drama turns our attention to the *WHY CAN'T IT BE DIFFERENT* instead of accepting things as they are.

Forget why can't it be different. Accept. Accept. Accept. breathe.

It's the knocking our heads against the stone walls that's causing all our pain. Enough. Time for healing.

[Icare dixit]

I'd say it's anxiety that's negative. The (only) negative emotion (if you consider it an emotion at all; maybe it only affects emotion or the feeling of emotions). It causes you to act, express, or freeze, suppress. I'd say drama is better than suppression. Expression is positive (but may cause anxiety). But finding a better way to express yourself, control your impulses, know the positive emotions that cause your anxiety, what affects you, what beliefs cause the anxiety, allows you to express yourself without causing more anxiety.

Something like that.

I'd say anxiety is all bad, a bad sign (which is in a way good; it's the difference between anxiety as a function, intensional, or as an outcome, extensional). Not all emotions are good or positive (unless anxiety is not an emotion, I'd say).

If drama is (in some way) negative (I agree you could argue it is because of how it may affect others and/or yourself (directly)) (as well), it has to be replaced by something positive. Keeping it all in is worse, I believe.

It can be different, but your approach to making it so might need work.

[StarBlue]

No drama is just *isness* - what is happening now - nothing needed to be added. It's the anxiety that's caused by conditioning residing in the subconscious that causes us to recreate a similar experience so we use the drama to do just that.

We can get stuck and addicted to the chemicals our conditioning forces us to re-create to get that same feeling. It's all undercover in the subconscious. We don't WANT to get into the fight, but there is a chemical need for the cortisol, adrenaline etc. in those exact amounts that only the drama can induce. Drama is the impetus that precedes the emotion that brings about the fix that *assures* the brain that all is clear and the conditions for the fix have been met once again.

A life without drama is a void - it is going cold turkey - so it's almost impossible to do unless you have something ELSE in its stead that will provide a release of hormones into the body - pleasurable ones preferably - think oxytocin the love hormone, otherwise a vacuum is created and that will push many a sufferer straight to the other side in over the top behavior to compensate - who through eating binges, acting out, in, fights, whatever hormone constellation the body is jonesing for,

Originally Posted by Icare dixit

I'd say it's anxiety that's negative. The (only) negative emotion (if you consider it an emotion at all; maybe it only affects emotion or the feeling of emotions). It causes you to act, express, or freeze, suppress. I'd say drama is better than suppression. Expression is positive (but may cause anxiety). But finding a better way to express yourself, control your impulses, know the positive emotions that cause your anxiety, what affects you, what beliefs cause the anxiety, allows you to express yourself without causing more anxiety.

Something like that.

I'd say anxiety is all bad, a bad sign (which is in a way good; it's the difference between anxiety as a function, intensional, or as an outcome, extensional). Not all emotions are good or positive (unless anxiety is not an emotion, I'd say).

If drama is (in some way) negative (I agree you could argue it is because of how it may affect others and/or yourself (directly)) (as well), it has to be replaced by something positive. Keeping it all in is worse, I believe.

It can be different, but your approach to making it so might need work.

[Icare dixit]

I agree with the addiction. Just one kind. A strange addiction used to reduce anxiety by causing pain, directly or indirectly, possibly using other (let's call it secondary) addictions. But not expressing yourself is also a way to inflict pain.

So if you don't learn to express yourself without causing yourself pain, you'll always remain addicted.

[StarBlue]

However it's presented, the same sequence is in place - initial trauma results in anxiety results in conditioning resulting in the outcome of influx of chemicals with the end result of a pattern.

Said pattern needs to be recreated in order to feel the initial trauma. This is INDUCED with drama.

Expressing the trauma is through the lens of the drama until another lens/perspective is acquired.

Originally Posted by Icare dixit

I agree with the addiction. Just one kind. A strange addiction used to reduce anxiety by causing pain, directly or indirectly, possibly using other (let's call it secondary) addictions. But not expressing yourself is also a way to inflict pain.

So if you don't learn to express yourself without causing yourself pain, you'll always remain addicted.