[pikenbass]

I've been in therapy for about 6 months at my girlfriend's insistence. Basically if I want her to give me another chance I need to be active in therapy. No big deal I know I probably need it and I want her back so I've been willing to do this.

I just switched to a new therapist after things got stagnant with my last one (and maybe some attachment issues, she missed an appointment then I didn't hear from her with an explanation. I spent an entire week checking obituaries assuming she was dead and when I said this she brushed it off like it was no big deal). Anyway things were cruising along with the new therapist. She has experience with adhd which is my current diagnosis and was giving me some really creative solutions for handling the symptoms. I was onboard with it because some of these ideas I've never head before.

We got to talking about one of my ex's though and I mentioned she has bdp and still comes around to make me miserable sometimes. Next time we talked my therapist said I think we should swtich to dbt. I didn't know what dbt was but she made it seem like it would work for me so I said "ok sure". After that all of a sudden she was very interested in my parents and past relationships. She was asking me intake sort of questions, is this a problem for you, have you experienced this before, just felt like we were starting over.

Later on I got to googling dbt and realized its used for bpd. So ???? if she's evaluating me for that why wouldn't she say so? I'm tempted to drop her and find someone else but I have to admit the more I read about it the more I wonder if she's onto something. I'm not sure if I want to open that box though.

Anyone been here? Should I confront her or wait and see? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I'm half scared to talk to her again because I think I'll yell at her some about this and I do my best to keep that out of therapy.

[CANDC]

Hi pikenbass. Welcome to Psych Central. Glad you have been so responsive to your girlfriend's recommendations to pursue therapy with a therapist (T). I am sorry you assume that DBT is for borderline personality disorder. In fact it is used in treating many mental illnesses. Here are some of the books that talk about different applications of DBT. http://tinyurl.com/mrdxvdl

So your T sounds like they don't just want to have you talk, they are trying to give you coping tools. Here is an article about DBT and what it offers. https://psychcentral.com/lib/an-over...therapy/?all=1

After all I heard from other people and their experiences with therapists, I think you are fortunate to have a T that wants to help you learn tools to cope with the challenges you face. That is quite supportive. Maybe you could ask the T what workbooks would help you, so you could work on them in between sessions.

In my opinion, to keep changing T's whenever things get seriously looking at solutions, could be a sign of evading the challenges. From what you said about your girlfriend, that might not be interpreted as a good sign by her.