[AbladeintheMeadow]

...do you feel like there are two parts of you? The part that gets paranoid or feels abandoned & the part that tries to reason with yourself pointing out why there's no need to be feeling as you do because there is a reasonable explanation for why a person has behaved in a particular way that's not in any way suspicious really or is because they simply have other parts to their life as people do?

I'm really struggling today to keep the more accepting & reasonable part of my brain in control. It's tiring & distracting & makes getting my work done really difficult because of the "noise" in my head.

I just wondered if anyone would be willing to share any techniques or coping tools they find useful.

Thank you.

[Shazerac]

Perhaps it would help to think of that part of you that freaks out as your inner child. You can comfort and tell her everything will be ok, but the adult you will make the decision.

[cryingontheinside]

I feel like there's another part of me that isn't really me . it puts me down and makes me feel bad

[CF17]

Every day I get a glimpse of that, and by far, you are not alone.
It used to be unbearable to me, however, I have learned some new techniques to work around that.
First of all, you understand that BPD gets much better over the years, right? In case of severe depression, we have to always look out for alternatives in order to control the disorder - there's no cure.
Have you looked into good old psychotherapy? I've read a book from David Burns, "the feeling good new mood therapy" that sounds sooo cliche but its quite interesting! It encouraged me to look into that treatment rather than meds - which I haven't taken in many years.
I made small and big lifestyles changes, and honestly, I see a gigantic change in my life. Exercising regularly improved my self-esteem, as well as avoiding certain social behaviors that are not fit to us who suffer from mood disorders - like drinking alcohol regularly, for instance. Small unimportant things, like sipping a cup of tea in the morning, walking through a bridge,... it all counts.
When it comes to people, It will always be a learning process for us. My mechanism is to lower expectations for everyone, so any good that comes is a pleasant surprise; any bad thing is already expected. I confess that I need a lot of improvement in this area, but as long as we keep moving forward and seeking for our well being, that's all that matter...

Best,
CF

[Nennenn]

Originally Posted by Shazerac

Perhaps it would help to think of that part of you that freaks out as your inner child. You can comfort and tell her everything will be ok, but the adult you will make the decision.

I love that for the manic or immmature me’s! Thanks for the idea! Now I need to figure out how to quell the neurotic me without dipping into my swinging psychodrama momma! Harder some days than others, but I prefer the more neurotic to the more psychotic lately. I mean my 30^s were a blast, but I am 43 in a few months and a mom.

I need better balance over these inner personas.

They call me Aunt Nen~nene...At least they might if I let them acknowledge my existence! 🌸

There´s the part of me that says "everyone hates you and you´ll be alone forever" and then there´s the part that says. "Yes, but that´s because your personality is **** and you´re a bad person"
They both agree with each other on a lot, whatever. I´ll let them at it.