[Cantlosetobpd]

Hi New here. Need help to control my BPD. Its time to learn how and. To learn about it. I've been diagnosed with this for my whole adult life and know nothing about it. Please help

I've had bpd most of my adult life. I know nothing about it and it has taken over my life. I'm scared I won't be able to learn how to control it. I need help

[Skeezyks]

I've never been diagnosed as having BPD myself. Quite a few years ago, though, I read the book: Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder by Richard Moskovitz, M.D. And based on what I read in that book I felt that, when I was young, I could have been diagnosed as having it. That would not be the case anymore I presume. But I've been told BPD tends to burn itself out as a person ages. And I've certainly done that.

Here are links to a bunch of articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of BPD:

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/b...lity-disorder/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...lity-disorder/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...lity-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/b...ng-with/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-emo...lity-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/life-w...lity-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/b...rder/symptoms/

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/b...eatment/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/lib/dialect...isorder/?all=1

And then here's a links to 2 articles for your husband:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/living...lity-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/loving-...lity-disorder/

[Cantlosetobpd]

Thank you. Me and my husband have been looking it up online with a broad perspective info. My husband is my reasoning,my lets sit back and talk about the would ifs if you make that choice. We are at a stump n the road and want to strengthen our marriage, and our family. So again thank you.

[Unrigged64072835]

Hi and welcome to PC!

Are you in therapy?

There's a treatment called dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) that is particularly useful with BPD. Your husband can use it too.

Here is a website with more information: DBT Self Help

[Marie67]

Hi and welcome! In addition to the suggestions above, I highly recommend you both read The Buddha and the Borderline, which is written by a borderline woman about her experience.

I had to figure out that I was borderline for myself, and the two things that have helped the most are mindfulness (slowing down and being aware of my thoughts) and also questioning my thinking. I used to take everything personally. Now I realize that if someone doesn't say hello, maybe they didn't see me; they were preoccupied; I didn't see/hear them acknowledge me... Someone didn't forget my birthday because they hate me; they just forgot... and so on. Oh, and boundaries. Learning about healthy boundaries is really useful, and Al-Anon literature is great for that. Not all overnight, okay? You are getting started.