I Have BPD & am in a Relationship

After years of being diagnosed with schizophrenia I found out three years ago that I don't have schizophrenia that I have BPD. I'm in a relationship. I've been in the same one for over twenty years. I know that that sounds IMPOSSIBLE for someone with BPD but it's not. Granted he's carried the majority if not most of the time all of the weight of our relationship but I'm in one and have been and yet it all seems still new to me. IDK what I'm trying to say.

Well... honestly... I don't know anything about this. Assuming the relationship you've been in is a good one, having sustained it for 20 years is to be celebrated, regardless of your diagnosis!

I don't know if this will be of any consequence to you. But family therapist, Kati Morton, has a video on her YouTube channel on the subject of the "quiet borderline". I've often thought there was a possibility that, when I was younger, I might have been diagnosed as having BPD. But, if so, I think it would probably have been of the type Kati talks about in this video. Here's a link:



My best wishes to you...

I have been married for 16 years, together for 17 so yes, it is possible to have BPD and a long-term relationship. Not easy but possible.

I've been in a relationship for 8 years, married for 7. My husband did a lot at the beginning until I went through intensive therapy and was stabilized. We're now able to work together better. I'm doing more now because of his MS meds causing issues, but I'm still managing.

I also think that having sustained a good relationship for 20 years is to be celebrated

Thanks for the link to the video. I can't concentrate on watching it all at once so I thought that I'd reply to you real quick.

I haven't been in a very happy marriage. We're not legally married. But that doesn't really matter to either one of us. We're married. So anyway yeah.

Thanks.

That's awesome!

That's great!

I'm glad I found this thread, it gives me some hope. We're going on 24 years of marriage and he was diagnosed with Bpd about 3 years ago. Knew something wasn't quite right and that there were symptoms that the other diagnoses he had didn't cover. We suspected bpd, but it wasn't confirmed until 2015. Needless to say, he was devastated, especially when he went to do some research on it, and all he got was negative reviews from both therapists and and family members who dealt with patients who were diagnosed with Bpd.

I have a step daughter with BPD. It isn't easy but with therapy twice a week, it is much better. She only goes once per week now and it still helps. My best to both of you and welcome.

I have BPD traits and have been in a relationship for 20 years this month. Despite what much of the internet would have you believe, it is absolutely possible for people with this disorder to have satisfying relationships, especially with good therapeutic support. While self-education can be an important tool for managing symptoms, pwBPD and those who love them need to take care with their sources of information. There are resources out there that discuss BPD from an empathetic, non-stigmatized viewpoint while still being realistic about the challenges posed by the disorder. The Mighty is one such website: Search | The Mighty.