BPD and hypersexuality?

How common is hypersexuality with BPD? I've read elsewhere that it is common, but searching through the forums here I'm not finding any posts relating hypersexuality to BPD. Most of the hypersexuality posts are in the bipolar forum. Is this something that any one here deals with? Are there any triggers that seem to bring about hypersexual feelings with BPD? I'm curious about how it is different in BPD versus bipolar. Thanks.

I have BPD and am definitely hypersexual. I have a lot of sex with people I just meet. I find it stimulating and exciting.

Hi, singularity01, and welcome to the forums. You might want to check out youtube for videos about BPD, too, as well as this forum. I like the ones from "medcenter". Hypersexuality is sometimes talked about as an issue with BPD, along the same lines of impulse control, or lack there-of. (Issues with shopping, gambling, substance abuse, etc.) It's not one of my "current" issues, but at one time, certainly was.

It's not all the time, everyday, but I have my bouts with hypersexuality for sure.

A lot of people with BPD are also victims of sexual abuse (but not all people with BPD were abused, sexually or otherwise.) Sexual abuse has a known link with hypersexuality (not all that are abused become hypersexual.)
However, BPD is associated with a difficulty with boundaries and a deep willingness and capacity to love - which can be expressed through sexuality... and that would be linked with the 'favorite person' and how the splitting is at any one time.

Yes, I also deal with hypersexuality. Apart from the obvious, what are healthy ways that you "deal" with it and how effective are these coping mechanisms?

I also have a problem with being hypersexual, I dont know if it's from Bpd or Bipolar, I feel like I have a problem with this, Like it's a drug

I am also hypersexual and the infamous trait of dealing with perceived projection is my problem. I am with a girl who is very attractive and the honeymoon phase is over but I still want sex all the time. She doesnt although we still do plenty so the rejection of it sends me for a loop. Its almost sabotaged it right now.

I only have experience with one person that seems to have BPD. So far as I know, he was abused by a male relative when young and tells me that he was sexually assaulted by a girl when he was 15. I've become the object of his obsession in the last few months and he has become increasingly sexually aggressive with me to the point where I would say that he was hypersexual. He expressed a number of fantasies that I could only describe as paraphilia. Nearly every conversation gets steered towards his sexual needs in a very crass and crude way. At first, it was flirtatious between us and then it became overwhelming for me. I tried bringing this to his attention and how I feel about it, but it only seems to fuel a more desperate need for him to be sexually aggressive.

Yeah, I feel the same way. I'm not quite sure what my dysfunction is. I will have periods of time where I'm doing just fine. Sometimes, I just feel empty and incapable of dealing with other people. I definitely have some sexual dysfunction. Maybe I use it as coping mechanism. Having sex with people is an easy way to feel connected to people. Relationships are hard for me.

I say that and I've been married for 18 years now. I screwed up pretty hard core about 3 years ago. I went through a pretty bad depression and then after that I turned into a total nympho. I had a bunch of affairs. It really was quite awful overall and I can never do that again.

The problem is I still have urges to do life wrecking stuff. This happens to me when I feel spent or empty. I've been good for 3 years, meaning no cheating, but I still feel like I'm struggling internally and hiding it because I don't want my husband to worry or start distrusting me again. My biggest fear is that I'll get out of control again. It seems like my whole life is so long to try to reign myself in. I want people to trust me, but I am struggling with being able to trust myself.

I think about maybe seeming a psychologist sometimes. I was going to once and then the place I was referred to closed up shop. Now we've got this can pandemic bs and nobody will meet with you in person. I'll want to, but then I'll think my problem isn't bad enough to warrant it. I also don't want to be prescribed anything. I'm afraid whatever they give me is not going to work and might give me other health problems. Another thing is I don't want to hear I've got some problem they don't have any good treatments for because that would make me feel pretty hopeless. I sort of cycle through all those thoughts and I basically decide to take no action because I'm not sure.

Last couple of days I just haven't felt up to doing anything. Saturday I played some games online with friends over a web conference and I got super smashed. Vomitted, fell off a bed, and I don't even know what else. Now I'm embarrassed about that and I just want to retreat. I put a lot of effort into trying to connect with people, but I get disappointed so easily and I just want to give up.