[fletch33]

I havenÂ’t been on these forums in over a year, but I just felt compelled to post tonight. I have been in DBT therapy for about 3 months now. I just wanted to talk about the ups and downs and see if others diagnosed with BPD feel the same way I do.
I have recently been thinking about quitting because I feel like itÂ’s not making a difference. I still get upset easily. IÂ’m still having outbursts on family and friends. IÂ’m still struggling with self image. I could go on.
However, my mom and my husband are seeing a difference. They said I seem less out of control and more able to calm down.
My question is: is it normal to want to quit and to be frustrated even when others tell you they see a difference? I just wish it would work faster. IÂ’m tired of it being so difficult to regulate myself.

[dancinglady]

I felt the same way at the earliest stages. My opinion dont quit DBT. I went through 3 therapists until i found the right one. If you only have one DBT therapist in your area go online look at facebook there are several online groups and classes. Dont quit DBT.

[mountainstream]

[catchme]

It's probably harder for you to see the changes because they're small and you're still struggling. But little changes add up! So keep at it! It takes work, a lot of which you have to do by yourself, but it's definitely worth it.

[Kathleen83]

You are so not alone on this. Everything you said? Plays in my head on a weekly basis, if not more frequent. Doesn't help my state of mind that the group sessions tend to be the hardest for me to get through, leaving me even less inclined to want to keep going. I've been in therapy for about the same amount of time as you. Stick with it. This is a very in-depth, comprehensive course. I'm also frustrated by the amount of time and effort involved, but I'm so tired of living like I have been, too. Not all parts are as hard as others.

[jcl76]

Very interesting. I say that because I was in the SAME situation where I wanted to quit after 3 months. I felt it wasnt making a difference.

Well....I kept at and finally looked back days before I started and I saw some "progress'. I was a little different in a good way. That was all I needed to keep going. My DR said in the beginning I am looking at about 2 years. At the time I was 35, so I said ok by the time I am 37 all is well. I am proof it works if you stay with it.

I hear you say that you are "still" having outburst as isnt solved 'Now" focus on where you used to be and where you are after you keep at it.

Trust me almost all BPDs struggle with "nothings changing" and want to quit.

The freedom in the end is more than you can imagine and SO WORTH IT

Originally Posted by fletch33

I havenÂ’t been on these forums in over a year, but I just felt compelled to post tonight. I have been in DBT therapy for about 3 months now. I just wanted to talk about the ups and downs and see if others diagnosed with BPD feel the same way I do.
I have recently been thinking about quitting because I feel like itÂ’s not making a difference. I still get upset easily. IÂ’m still having outbursts on family and friends. IÂ’m still struggling with self image. I could go on.
However, my mom and my husband are seeing a difference. They said I seem less out of control and more able to calm down.
My question is: is it normal to want to quit and to be frustrated even when others tell you they see a difference? I just wish it would work faster. IÂ’m tired of it being so difficult to regulate myself.

[mountainstream]