Welcome to the Borderline Personality Disorder

Just joined tonight. No formal diagnosis; not yet anyway. Then again, after reading all I've read there's no doubt that I have it. Lit up when I saw the title of this thread but after scanning all 14 pages I'm let down. I see plenty newcomers introducing themselves and posting a question or two but next to zero responses.
Wondering if there's a moderator here? I realize Doc keeps this place up and running but someone with a little BPD knowledge could do this thread a lot of good.
Just a suggestion.

Just joined tonight. After reading this thread, it appears it's the blind leading the blind.

Hi phoenix14,

Welcome. As Psych Central is a peer-support website, we do not have professionals here to give advice or knowledge. So everyone who posts here, even if they have a professional background in psychology/psychiatry/counselling/therapy, they are here for their own issues, not to provide therapy or professional advice.

As for this particular forum, I've got some borderline traits (not enough for a formal diagnosis, so said my former psychiatrist) and a background in psychology and counselling. So I guess if anyone was knowledgeable about BPD, I'd be one of them. DocJohn (Dr. John Grohol) runs the entirety of Psych Central, so he doesn't answer questions or personal issues.

If you're looking for online counselling, there are some options.

First, we have a section that you can peruse: Find a Therapist

Otherwise...

1. Ask the Therapist You can submit a question for free, and a therapist MAY answer it in a reply. It is not guaranteed though, so your question/issue may not be answered.

2. Resources to find an online psychotherapist. Psych Central: Psychotherapy: Online

There is also a phone-option -- hotline phone support:
Common Hotline Phone Numbers | Psych Central

Generally I consider this particular thread as unimportant. To me it is nothing more than an introductory thread briefly explaining BPD.

If someone has a question then generally I would expect that they create a thread of their own.

Wow! Not feeling so alone. Here I sit in Starbucks by myself. Had a rough day, full of emotions, but also got a lot of anger and fear out of my system!

C.

Hello just joined last night, after reading You know you are a bpd when thread. While I don't have a formal dignoses I've read enough books in the last two weeks to realize that i'm not bi-polar or manic depressive that I don't suffer from PTD, OCD, or social anxiety disorder or any of the other mental illnesses I've been labeled with since I was 9. And reading that thread is the first time I've laughed since I've found out about the disorder.

Since finding out, I've been feeling as if my entire personality is the disorder, I'm not sure who I am without it. Even the good parts of myself like social empathy and wanting to help abused children seems to be nothing more then the result of my disorder. So the thought of getting any help (plus the fact that medication brought on self mutilation when I was younger because normal feelings left me feeling nothing but empty) scares me. Luckily my wife is dedicated to our relationship (although I've done everything I can to drive her away at times) and has agreed to learn as much as she can to help me and that I can go at my own pace in seeking help.

So anyway just wanted to say Hi.

Hello Phoenix, im sorry there's a poor representation of BPD interest. Though it states Im new Im actually not I just have been away for sometime. ive been dx with BPD for about 6 years. I'd say I know a fair amount about it. it could be that because there knew they don't exactly know what type questions asked because they have been newly dx. and how this might be difficult to hear but that's one of the main things though BPD as we take things are personal,so I hope that that's not the case and would deter you from using Sikes centralized place to get just a friend or some help. Phoenix would've noticed in the past is when things get a little hectic here on PC may take a break from it and then return to when you have a better frame of mind. if not what can happen is you become too emotional to upset about it and and this can just make it tough for the next time it's right to communicate with somebody. It may also help to learn if you don't already DBT skills. Learn to test some time ago I think of misplaced my notebook about it and I could always use a brush up on myself. So Phoenix I hope this helps you can message me at any time and not always at the computer but I a trainer and wanted to keep my word so if you message me onto my best to get back to you and glad you joined PC. Bye

Hey, welcome to the group. I have a new Dx of BPD. This site is a great way way to talk and vent with people who can understand the intensity of emotion you may experience, the losing control at times, and what I really consider "self-sabotage". I was relieved to get my Dx; I finally knew there was a reason my relationships were failing. My entire life, I just thought I was a b**** who didn't want to put up with anyone's bull****. I thought myself independent, so when someone would piss me off, I'd send them packing, or pack up myself. Gives a whole new meaning to the "it's not you...it's me" break-up statement. LOL

how to get past all this?

Hi, I'm new here. Looking for some support and people to talk to. I fear I just lost a very important relationship and I am hoping that here I can find the support I need to take some of the pressure off of my BF. Right now he is my only support and he currently doesn't want to talk to me. I'm feeling very alone.

Hi. I'm new to the group, but not new to BPD. I was unknowingly dx with personality disorder in 1998. Read "I hate you, don't leave me" and thought "This is me!" I felt insecure, angry, and shame. Now, I just started seeing a new psychiatrist and she dx me with BPD. I know I have it. I hate that I have it. I want to keep it a secret, but had to tell my husband. Now I fear he will use my dx to explain me (my thoughts, emotions, and behavior) away to himself and others. I feel trapped in this dx.

Hello. I just diagnosed myself. I'm not really surprised but I am upset. I emailed my psychotherapist to ask what she thinks. I don't know if I'm meant to tell my general practioner, or my employer, or my friends. I am single (thanks to this bloody thing) and do I tell people I'm dating?? I'm so confused.

I wouldn't unless it begins to seriously affect your relationships. Most people run for the hills when you say BPD!

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If you can avoid telling people then that's what I suggest.

BPD is a hard thing to deal with. I hate it!

I agree me too I hate it!

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Hi Blueberries

I'm new here and new to coming to terms with BPD. Have a think about who it is likely to affect. Does it affect your work and so does your employer need to know? I have told a couple of close friends (I don't have many thanks to the disorder)as it helped sharing the burden of it and they were understanding and supportive. There are plenty of other people in my life who I won't be telling.

My partner and I have separated until I can become more stable as we both want a healthy relationship which isn't possible right now. I'm waiting on some NHS treatment which means my GP knows (if they ever read my notes. I don't have much to do with them directly).

Somebody on here (I will get their name) wrote that you are the same person you were the day before you got your diagnosis. That helped me as I am more than the labels I am given (though BPD certainly takes over when it wants).

Take care, stay safe and well

Hi

Does anyone have any advice. I keep getting so hurt because I am so sensitive which means that I keep pushing people away. It is from people who know about my condition and they mean well. I get so frustrated by being so sensitive. I can't help how I feel. It's like every day 'life' is just too hard. I can't cope.

Thanks and peace

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Hi, I understand where your coming from however, I'm not sure if I have an answer. I know it may take some time to learn DBT skills but this maybe a good place to start. Another tid bit of advise is to "not react" when someone upsets you, yet I know impulsivity is difficult to control. it does get better but this means work too!

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Hello all, just joined after using search engine for 'cant feel love from other people' and came across an old thread/forum post here that was the first thing I have ever read that felt dead on. Even the things you don't talk about with people who know you have bpd.
At this point in my life I was diagnosed many years ago at age 18 but didn't really accept it. Well I never tried to figure it out. I am not medicated and luckily only have 2-3 major episodes a year but I have daily issues and hard time dealing with certain things. I don't know there is a fix but I think being active in a forum/group like this may be helpful as I want to seek support but don't do well with social situations.