Conversely .. It is also easy for a person with BPD to find themselves in an abusive relationship. Because often times, their childhood included abuse of some nature so they learned to associate love with abuse - and because they are so afraid of abandonment and will actually blame themselves for the ending of a relationship - if a relationship is abusive, the person would rather stay in it and continue to try to fix it then leave it - because to leave is to admit failure and to be abandoned and have "love" removed
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