9 affects spanking has on children

I am against any kind of physical punishment. Spanking is hitting.

Well, as the definition of spanking says: slap with one's open hand, especially on the buttocks as a punishment. When done properly (i.e. not excessively or with great amounts of force), it shouldn't leave marks, welts or bruises. Maybe reddening of the skin, but that should only last a few minutes.

BEATING, HITTING etc: are violent excessive actions that leave bruises, welts, and possibly broken/sprained limbs.

BIG DIFFERENCE. Anyone should know that leaving bruises and welts on a child is abuse, but spanking is most definitely NOT abuse in any way.

No it isn't. Hitting is totally different from spanking. Please read my post above this one to see what spanking actually is, and what it isn't.

You are raising a hand to a child. You are striking a child.
Spanking | Define Spanking at Dictionary.com

spank1
[spangk]
Spell Syllables
verb (used with object)
1.
to strike (a person, usually a child) with the open hand, a slipper, etc., especially on the buttocks, as in punishment.
noun
2.
a blow given in spanking; a smart or resounding slap.

I really don't see how you can claim spanking is not hitting. I understand (understand, not necessarily agree) saying spanking is different from beating, but spanking IS hitting. You hit someone repeatedly on the buttocks. It might be an accepable form of hitting, it might be a non-abusive form of hitting - but it's still hitting.

Exactly.

I got spanked, and when it was just a spanking, not an out of control beating, it was justified and I learned from that. So when it's done properly, in the appropriate areas, never the face, I'm okay with it. But people shouldn't spank kids when they are angry, I think the act of spanking comes from anger. Because if they wait till they cool down usually a spanking is not in the cards then. Just my opinion on it.

Exactly.
It has to do with the attitude.
Like I said on an earlier response.
Thank you, Trace14

Some children react to spanking, and it works. Nothing hurt but their feelings. But some kids don't respond as well, which I think infuriates the parents more and then they cross that line of making it hurt. My cousin was like that. He would laugh when they gave him a spanking, then they really tore into his butt. He knew how to push their buttons and almost dared them to react. They were very nice people. He was always into something according to my mom. My point is that there are so many variables to spanking, the kid, the parent, substance abuse on either, acting in anger, wanting to inflict pain, use it as a form of discipline in the right way.

Also, spanking, as defined by the Cambridge dictionary, is:

to hit a child with the hand, usually several times on the bottom as a punishment ​
to hit an adult on the bottom in order to get or give sexual pleasure


TO HIT.

"Being spanked properly", well that's still a hit. Not a beating, but a hit. I mean, come on, if I slap my fiance's shoulder because he farted on me (yes it happens), even if I'm joking, I still just hit the guy. Any forceful strike leading to physical contact is a hit.
Now concerning whether or not I believe in spanking. I lean more towards no. The reason being, I, myself will never be okay with laying hands on a child. I've done it once because I was told and I felt an incredible amount of guilt because I knew there had to be a better way. And there is: Talking. Even as small children you can talk to them constructively (sometimes through play). If they're not in the mindset to be talked to, time-out and let them calm down. That's how I did it and those boys went from little terrors to very respectful kids. And they were smart, straight up little geniuses.
Some people believe in spankings. Fine. I just know that I can't do it and won't. Even if it's more difficult and requires more time, there are more constructive ways to lead to the same goal.
I never got a little tap that only caused my skin to redden. No, my mom had a board (the pattle) and when that thing came down... let's just say it didn't teach me a damn thing other than 'try to block it otherwise you won't sit for a week'. And I didn't just get spanked on the ***. Where ever that thing landed, it's where it landed. I don't know what a contructive spanking is, so that might explain my stance. Regardless, this is just my opinion. Take it how you however you want.

I agree. That's why I said it's only violent if used in an abusive way.

thank you for sharing this artickle.

I was spanked quite a bit as a child, so know what it's like

not nice

I was spanked too often as a young person, but it made me a stronger person today. Today I counsel parents on raising their kids. Sometimes it involves spanking sometimes it doesn’t. Spanking can be a part of effective child rearing but not if it is the ONLY thing.

I was spanked (and other... ) too. Thanks for posting

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