I know there's ways to ignore people, but the fact that the person posted still shows up and they take up most of the thread and I have no idea what's going on unless I read the posts sometimes.

^that's in other people's threads. I doubt there is a way to actually block someone from replying in other people's threads, but what about your own? Is there a setting where you can say person A, B, and C are not allowed to reply to your thread?

[mimi2112]

i'm having the same trouble. i have a person on my ignore list, but i can still see his name as a response in threads, but his comment is not there. also when the person replies with a "thanks", i can see that too. the person's name also comes up when i am scrolling through the list of new posts. it is really bothersome.

[DocJohn]

From now on, if you start a thread, and if the person is on your ignore list, the person will not be able to reply to your thread.

Best,
DocJohn

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by DocJohn

From now on, if you start a thread, and if the person is on your ignore list, the person will not be able to reply to your thread.

Best,
DocJohn

thanks. as one that uses and advocates for the ignore feature as a self care tool I have been wondering when this step would be taken. on the positive side its a great idea.

on the negative side....well people have been wanting (me included) and some have been asking for a way to tell when they are on someone elses ignore list...now they have one..

all a person needs to do is try posting in someones thread / post and if the post doesnt go through or they get a notice saying they dont have access to that thread they now know someone, possibly their friend has them on ignore...but they dont know whether its because they offended the person or if that person is having a bad day and must limit who and what they see that day for their own well being..

I can see many people possibly getting hurt by this if they dont have the ability to see this as a self care tool, not a paranoia symptom of losing a friendship, someone doesnt like me and other negative thoughts that can come with receiving conformation that someone is not reading, seeing or paying attention to them when a persons mental disorder symptoms are activated, they have abandonment issues and other issues around needing people to listen and be heard.

I want to say now that when I put someone on ignore (and I do so frequently depending upon how I am feeling that day, how much time I have for reading /replying to posts at that moment and whether this member and I have already discussed the same issue many times where they want me to make a change that is not possible with in my posts. )

my placing someone on the ignore list, shutting off their ability to reply to me is not about whether I like someone or not, and other paranoid ideas that mental disorders, symptoms and life issues can cause a person to think when they get confirmation that someone is ignoring them.

Originally Posted by DocJohn

From now on, if you start a thread, and if the person is on your ignore list, the person will not be able to reply to your thread.

Best,
DocJohn

Thank you so much for this! It will make me feel so much more comfortable posting threads.

I understand there probably isn't anything more to do about it in other people's threads, but at least ignore gives me the option to decide whether I'm in the right kind of mood to read that person's response or if I should just move on.

[mimi2112]

I found out that yes, that person can be ignored, but they still can send a" thanks" on my posts. this is very disheartening as the ignored person i have in mind is "thanking" me as part of the harassment. i am told to be patient and ignore it, but am not sure i will be able to.

[sabby]

all a person needs to do is try posting in someones thread / post and if the post doesnt go through or they get a notice saying they dont have access to that thread they now know someone, possibly their friend has them on ignore...but they dont know whether its because they offended the person or if that person is having a bad day and must limit who and what they see that day for their own well being..

This is a good point amandalouise and it's a good time to remind everyone that we don't always know why someone does something. It's important to remember that just because we may find that we are being ignored, it doesn't necessarily mean that we've done something wrong. It would behoove everyone to consider that it's about the OP and where they and how they feel rather than to assume that it's about us personally.

As with many new functions, this will take some time to get used to for some members. I hope that everyone will do their best self care as that is a big part of what Psych Central is about.

[DocJohn]

Sorry, we can't disable the thanks or hugs at this time.

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by DocJohn

From now on, if you start a thread, and if the person is on your ignore list, the person will not be able to reply to your thread.

Best,
DocJohn

Thank you! This is so helpful!

Would this also block people from visiting your profile page?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by George H.

Would this also block people from visiting your profile page?

Im guessing that no it doesnt.

usually when you place someone on ....your own..... ignore list that means ....you.... will not see anything they post.

they will still be able to see your profile unless ...they.... put you on their ignore list.

Me "LIKE"!!!!!!!!! Thank you so much, Doc.!!!

Pax...........virago

[mimi2112]

Originally Posted by DocJohn

Sorry, we can't disable the thanks or hugs at this time.

thanks. at least i know it is being looked into.

[FooZe]

Originally Posted by amandalouise

they will still be able to see your profile unless ...they.... put you on their ignore list.

The Ignore List has no effect on who can see what profiles. One way to put someone on your ignore list (or take them off) is by going to their profile and clicking on User Lists. A pulldown menu appears, with options for adding them to your Contacts, or your Friends List -- or your Ignore List.

Originally Posted by DocJohn

From now on, if you start a thread, and if the person is on your ignore list, the person will not be able to reply to your thread.

Best,
DocJohn

i only heard about this this morning.

what a neat idea... i can't wait to try it for myself

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Thank you! This is so helpful!

Originally Posted by DocJohn

From now on, if you start a thread, and if the person is on your ignore list, the person will not be able to reply to your thread.

Best,
DocJohn

DocJohn, I know this was started with good intentions but thanks to our volatile nature, this has caused a firestorm on the BPD forum..... I think we need help to bring some civility back. SOS...

[DocJohn]

This is the forum for feedback on features and things we change... so any member is welcomed to come here and post to this thread about their thoughts and feelings about this feature. Thanks!

Thank you.

[pegasus]

Regarding the new feature of blocking someone replying to you (if you've started the thread) is if it is a thread such as a games thread or a thread like 'You know you are borderline when...' In that case it does seem unfair that the originator of the thread can block someone from a general/playful thread where the persons reply would not affect the originator of the thread. This is where the upset is coming from, people are finding out they are on an ignore list when going in a 'friendly' thread and then it just seems mean and not about self-care at all.

If you can imagine, for example me starting all the games threads and then putting certain people on ignore which would stop them being able to play games at all. Not nice.

But I don't know what the answer to this is as I feel that this new option is wonderful for those that fear posting because they don't want an answer from someone that triggers them. Hmm...

[Perna]

Is there any way a blocked person can be told that before they go to the effort of responding to someone only to find they've been blocked?

If people can block someone from responding to their initiated threads, I think the blocked person should be informed sooner rather than "surprised"?

[BrokenNBeautiful]

If I were blocking someone, would rather just not see the blocked person's post than them not be able to post on my threads. I still respect their right to express themselves, even if I have the right not to see it on my threads.

I got ignored a couple of times recently. And with this new feature, I can't respond to their threads.

Some people must have really been upset about others even being on their threads, even with "_________is on your ignore list". Okay. I understand. I am trying to understand about different people's comfort levels.

I am also starting to wonder if this is a lot about me. Because this new feature seemed to start after I had some problems with my own issues. I feared that people were just shutting me out by not responding to my posts.

I don't want to be a problem here.

I am afraid I am.

I am really concerned.

I need a pm from the moderators or something if I am causing problems. Or a reassurance that I am not. One mod did tell me I was not a problem, so for a while I thought I wasn't.

this happened recently while I was away.

Was this about something I did?

I got ignored by 2 people at once around this time (March 29, 2013)

I have a strong suggestion not to restrict or repress anyone any further on the boards, i.e. by disabling the "thanks/hugs" or by making them unable to post on a thread.

I fear this will lead to more and more repression of people's expressions.

Not everyone harrasses or abuses. I wish people would just be okay with not having to see someone's response.

I want people to learn how to communicate on here and I feel like this new feature might make many of us afraid to even practice this. Communication skills makes a good group, not simply shutting each other out. IMHO.

I felt perfectly fine when I used to block people and not be able to see their posts or worry about them pming me. Yes, I knew they were on my thread. But I felt safer not seeing their words if they might bother me. And they didn't because I could not see them. They could still post, but I did not have to see it.

Just my own humble input.

Carol

It may be about you to someone but I don't think it's about you in general. Try not to worry. If you weren't triggering to someone here you'd have cause for concern
It's unrealistic for anyone to expect to be totally sheltered in life and if you "trigger" someone... that may be more about their issues than about you.

[Travelinglady]

I sometimes remind newbies of the features we have to protect them, if they come in expressing fear of rejection or other worries about being hurt in some way.

That said, I can identify with the borderlines who have a strong fear of abandonment. As far as I know, no one has blocked me, but I can see me feeling some hurt about it, if they did.

Would it be a dumb idea if say, I wanted to block someone, that I tell him or her I am going to and why? I have been accused of ignoring someone, and I did explain to him that I wasn't intending to. I know some diagnoses predispose people to being upset about being blocked. And at the same time, some diagnoses might lead people to seemingly annoy others and/or step over boundaries.....

(I hope I am not just piggybacking on this thread. I thought while we were addressing blocking, I am being appropriate in asking.)

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by PAYNE1

I sometimes remind newbies of the features we have to protect them, if they come in expressing fear of rejection or other worries about being hurt in some way.

That said, I can identify with the borderlines who have a strong fear of abandonment. As far as I know, no one has blocked me, but I can see me feeling some hurt about it, if they did.

Would it be a dumb idea if say, I wanted to block someone, that I tell him or her I am going to and why? I have been accused of ignoring someone, and I did explain to him that I wasn't intending to. I know some diagnoses predispose people to being upset about being blocked. And at the same time, some diagnoses might lead people to seemingly annoy others and/or step over boundaries.....

(I hope I am not just piggybacking on this thread. I thought while we were addressing blocking, I am being appropriate in asking.)

thanks. I really don't take it so personally anymore. I am just concerned about this new feature accompanying the ignore thing, like the not being able to reply to public threads. I have been working very hard on my bpd. Yes, it hurts, but not as much as it used to.

Carol