[8thstreetbungalow]

Today everyone in chat was in a user created room where you werent allowed to talk about what is bothering you. I had no support at the time as everyone was in that room and I would sit in the support room alone
Then I tried to confront them saying it defeats the purpose of chat all they had to say was go to emo room. Then they said if noone comes to ask people. It ismypersonal opinion that if all they want is to chat they should go to a different website. Some of us donor have the same luxuries as others. So not only this but I started to get very angry about this as they for the most part just ignored me so I began to snap and boil in anger. The mods just gave me small warnings instead of helping me calm down. They were gonna just ban me. Anyway this kind of scenario can set me off in my group home and cause me to go homeless. I did in this case handle my anger appropriately but I still think this kind of complaint is valid. I am sure this stuff has happened before.

[MoxieDoxie]

I have seen members ask the room if someone would be willing to PM them because they need some support. I rarely seen them get turned down. You can try that. There are usually others in the same boat as you and do want to talk about their issues.

[Phreak]

Originally Posted by 8thstreetbungalow

Today everyone in chat was in a user created room where you werent allowed to talk about what is bothering you. I had no support at the time as everyone was in that room and I would sit in the support room alone

If people want to create a room and not have people bring up issues in it, then they're AFAIK perfectly entitled to do so.

People aren't always in a headspace where they're able to offer support even if they would otherwise want to.

As moxie said, the generally encouraged thing to do has been to ask if somebody will come to the support room with you. As far as I'm concerned it's always a fair request, but you shouldn't take it personally if nobody does.

Originally Posted by 8thstreetbungalow

It ismypersonal opinion that if all they want is to chat they should go to a different website.

It's not unreasonable for people to want to be surrounded by other people that they feel will understand them better than to be in an 'ordinary' chatroom where not everybody has mental illness awareness.

In my experience as far as possible, when possible users, especially in the chatroom, more specifically members who haven't recently joined will tend to offer support if they're able to.

Members may already be supporting each other in PM, as well as multi-tasking.

Just remember, it's not personal, and people like you

Phreak

[DocJohn]

8thstreetbungalow.... Sorry to hear this happened to you. Chat can be a very different experience from hour to hour, day to day, and depending who is in what room. While it seems ideal for getting immediate emotional support, that is not always the case, depending who's online.

I hope the next time you try it, it turns out better for you. The chat rooms are not for everyone, and if you're in immediate need of support, it may not always be able to answer that need.

Best,
DocJohn

[A Red Panda]

I'm sorry that you had such a frustrating experience.

I don't use the chat, but that said... everyone is allowed to make their own chat rooms and sometimes you just need a space where you don't talk about what's bothering you - it can still be a very supportive room. They have every right to use the chat portion of this website, as do you. But your needs do not trump theirs.

No matter how you were feeling, you don't really have a right to snap at others and take out all your anger on them.

The mods jobs are to keep things peaceful. They aren't counsellors or therapists, so their role was to give you warnings. They could have banned you, but they clearly felt empathy for you as they just continued to give you out small warnings.

There are always other places to go if one place is making you feel frustrated. I'm not sure what it was you needed to talk about, but there are lots of support lines that you could call. You mentioned living in a group home, so I am sure that someone there is qualified to help you and would be able to listen.

[8thstreetbungalow]

I don't have many "safe" places to discuss my problems this post was a vent I shouldn't of posted it I thought about just deleting it after I let out my emotions.

[A Red Panda]

This site is a safe place for you to vent and talk about what is bothering you. I am sorry if you felt like it isn't.

But having a place to vent doesn't mean that it has to be pushed onto people who've expressed not wanting to discuss problems.

You can also always start a thread in whichever forum would be most appropriate! You're sure to get responses, and if you share that you'd really like to have someone to talk to, I'm sure that someone would notice and send you a pm!

[kaater]

Hi 8 ~

I recall you in the chatroom and me asking what's wrong. You never answered. I did reach out to try and help you but you need to either reply or just say something so we know you even acknowledge that someone is trying to be on your side, if you think this way. I would like to help anyone who needs it. All they have to do is reply or ask for this help!
Caring,
Katy

[8thstreetbungalow]

I don't think u were on when this happened kaater but thanks for the concern

[HALLIEBETH87]

I do frequent the chat but I wanted to add that if there is a time you need immediate support, there is an online crisis chat. Its much like the crisis lines you can call, but in chat room format. You speak to someone one on one. I have done it several times when I was very upset and needed help.

Just a thought.

Oh...I think its called Lifeline