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Dec 22, 2014, 12:18 PM
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These are my thoughts and opinions only...I'm just frustrated. Lately been feeling especially frustrated in part due to holidays, half due to family conflicts. I've gotten lots of support here and I am grateful for the thoughtful replies.
I do wish that those who do respond think carefully about what they are saying when they reply. I've had a couple of threads that I started lately that the answers are rather dismissive. For people like me that is challenging and not helpful. Also a dismissive answer tends to end the thread immediately. Possibly it is just my overly sensitive mindset but the ending to the threads is real. Thanks in advance for your thoughts...FLG 
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Dec 22, 2014, 04:48 PM
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Hello FLG,
I feel the same way sometimes too. I try my best to avoid it, and I also try to think that maybe the person was just super busy but wanted to say something to be supportive. I'm not sure if that is me being naïve or not. Anyway, I wanted to let you know you're not alone in that thought. At the same time, most people on here have been really awesome and I've made some very supportive friends. So there is that. 
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Dec 22, 2014, 06:53 PM
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Dec 22, 2014, 08:09 PM
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I get frustrated when people overreact to honesty. Im not one to sugar coat and there are a fair few on here that just need a cup of concrete.
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Dec 22, 2014, 08:49 PM
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This is unrelated to your grievances but I'm finding that it's common for people to start threads and then they abandon them and never return to respond to any of the replies? Thought that is kind of puzzling...
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Dec 23, 2014, 01:11 AM
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The replies I was speaking of just merely dismissed my thoughts, ideas or issues. They were not negative, just not helpful. Seems I touched a nerve... |
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Dec 23, 2014, 01:38 AM
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I'd explain to you what it meant but you'd likely be offended - even though it wasnt aimed at you in particular, this is the first of your threads I have seen.
Dismissing thoughts is a very good technique for mentally ill. We have strange and confusing thoughts, ideas and issues and it is not good to get held up on the bad ones. Another point of view for you to mull over. When you post on a public forum you are going to get a variety of answers, if you are not well enough to deal with answers you dont like then perhaps private message the people who will give you the answers you want. |
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Dec 23, 2014, 02:38 AM
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Dec 23, 2014, 05:16 AM
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ForeverLonelyGirl, I'm sorry if you've felt that way. It can be very upsetting
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Dec 23, 2014, 08:44 AM
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Just a few thoughts, and then we'll close this thread because we don't want members to feel like they're being singled out.
We all bring our own experiences and perspectives to the table in a support community like this. It's always going to be hodge-podge of folks who offer advice and insights, some good, some not relevant, and so on. The key part, for me anyways, of gaining from a community like ours is to take the advice that speaks to you, and throw away (without judgment) the advice that doesn't seem to jive with your reality. That means learning to understand that not everyone has walked a mile in your shoes, so others may not truly understand your pain or experiences. I also have to add that honesty can be doled out with a little compassion and trying to understand another person's point of view or personal experiences. It's not an all-or-nothing option. And you might find that honesty expressed with tentativeness and compassion ends up reaching the person far more effectively than anything else... Peace. DocJohn
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