[Patagonia]

In August of last yr, I think, I asked if there was a possibility of opening a forum discussing sex for older members, maybe 30 years & over. It was requested because of younger posters asking for advice on the sexual forum. Personally I'm not comfortable giving advice to teenagers.
I think it would be beneficial to have a forum for "older" members to post discussions.....that have a bit deeper sexual issues.
Thanks for reading!

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Patagonia

In August of last yr, I think, I asked if there was a possibility of opening a forum discussing sex for older members, maybe 30 years & over. It was requested because of younger posters asking for advice on the sexual forum. Personally I'm not comfortable giving advice to teenagers.
I think it would be beneficial to have a forum for "older" members to post discussions.....that have a bit deeper sexual issues.
Thanks for reading!

when I read this post I had a few thoughts.... there is the senior lounge for 55 and older to discuss any issues people who are older want to discuss, I know its not exactly in the 30-50 age group but given they are over that age group they probably have had those issues you want to discuss...... https://forums.psychcentral.com/seniors-lounge/

also have you checked the social groups pages, there may already be a social group where those issues are being discussed... there is a selection at the top of the page that says .....social groups. click on that and you will find pages and pages of social groups on all kinds of things.

I have noticed in the sexual and gender forum people of all ages do post in there but I do agree it may make it a bit easier to follow threads in there if it was broken down into sub groups like teen sexuality, young adult, middle adult, post menopausal (senior) and gender issues also with their own subgroup. or even remove the gender issues title because there is a forum for trans and other gender support forum..some posts do end up getting lost in the sexuality forum.

[seesaw]

I agree with this request...going on 3 years now of what I will call the peak of my breakdown...and I really want to get back to dating and seeking romantic relationships, but I have issues with sex and would like to be able to discuss the psychology of this, not in an obscene way, but in an honest and open way without being shamed.

A lot of us have sexual issues because of our disorders, and we are limited in being able to discuss them. It's impossible in chat because things get out of hand really fast, but on the forums, we can be more closely moderated and report inappropriate posts very easily.

I think this could be a good idea.

Seesaw

[DocJohn]

All of our forums are FOR ALL AGES unless otherwise specified. You can post your sexual concern or question in the sexuality forum, and your relationship concern in the relationship forum. Each forum is what our members make of it -- so if you want such forums to feature more "older adult" content, please consider posting it to help us make those forums more focused to your needs.

If it is an older-adult issue, the Seniors' Lounge is the right place to post instead.

You may be surprised to learn the kind of support and feedback you get -- from all age groups -- if you try to post a sexual-related issue in the Sexual and Gender Issues forum.

Best,
DocJohn

[Patagonia]

[QUOTE=DocJohn;5635446]....Each forum is what our members make of it -- so if you want such forums to feature more "older adult" content, please consider posting it to help us make those forums more focused to your needs."

I'm not sure I understand this. Are you saying when I post a question I should post in the title that it's for "older adults" to answer?What do you mean by "feature?"
Thanks for your help.

[DocJohn]

Sure, that's one way of doing it, posting that it is for "older adults."

I was just saying that you can add any thread you want to any forum that's appropriate for that topic. I see many "mature" sexual discussions in the Sexual forum, as well as other threads that come from younger people. So please, feel free to add your discussion to that forum if it's of a sexual nature.

[Patagonia]

Thank you for explaining it.

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by DocJohn

Sure, that's one way of doing it, posting that it is for "older adults."

I was just saying that you can add any thread you want to any forum that's appropriate for that topic. I see many "mature" sexual discussions in the Sexual forum, as well as other threads that come from younger people. So please, feel free to add your discussion to that forum if it's of a sexual nature.

Thank you. I wasn't aware that it was okay to post things of this very mature nature in those areas. Is there some kind of trigger warning we have to use? Or when would we need to use a trigger warning when discussing sexual intimacy and our issues surrounding it?

Thanks,
Seesaw

[seesaw]

Now I just have to work up the courage to write about these issues and post them.

I just wanted to say...

Anyone can answer anything here.

Say it's for "older adults"??? Okay. Fair enough, I suppose.

Anyway...you both know who's who for the most part from the style of writing and the types of things they write. Maybe use that as a guide to which answers will be valuable to you. Courage isn't needed. With me anyway.

[Patagonia]

The problem I foresee is that if I post a question & would really like to "hear from the older people", could spark retaliation from others.
I'm not sure it's worth it.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Patagonia

The problem I foresee is that if I post a question & would really like to "hear from the older people", could spark retaliation from others.
I'm not sure it's worth it.

I dont think there will be any retaliation. just looking at how the site is comprised. its a normal part of being on psych central.

the boards are all in categories...

for example no one retaliates in the bipolar board when someone older or younger wants to talk about their problems. no one retaliates when people older or younger want to discuss their dissociation problems, no one retaliates because someone older or younger wants to discuss their depression issues.

I have seen posts all over psych central where members have designated they only want to hear from people with this problem or that problem or this age bracket or that one, no one has ever gotten offended or retaliated because of this.

to me it just doesnt make sense to get upset over someone saying ok this post is for those over this age when wanting to discuss sex at age 40, 50, 60.... for one thing people not in menopause are not going to be able to post about having menopause and how hot flashes affect their sex life, I mean i can google and I can answer based on medical/ mental knowledge but Im not menopausal so I have no idea how having a hot flash in the middle of doing the entertainment personally affects a person of that age bracket.

my point its just how I see psych central posts anyway so its normal to me and nothing to get upset and retaliate against someone over 40 wants to talk about sex over 40 things.

Personally, I would just use my own judgement as to who to listen to (if I can) rather than specify a group, which isn't really pc for anyone to do anymore :-/

I tend to listen to those who have experience in my problem, rather than those who merely have an opinion about my problem, if I'm to be honest here. Although an alternative view is interesting, experience is more valuable.

Sorry to intrude on this thread....

[(JD)]

IMO it would also be nice if the OP is asking "older adults" that those who are "younger" would also designate... just so the advice taken isn't skewed?