[cptsdwhoa]

Thanks to anyone who reads this.

My grandmother called me today to order her food for her (the second day in a row that she's called me to do something for her. I'm not sure if my other family members are actually going to step up and help like they said they would. They never have before...this is a pattern with them). That seems so simple, but with us it's not so simple (at least not for me). I had an emotional flashback (now that I know what that is) while talking to her and a little after. I was almost in a panic.

Praise God that I was able to get calmer and I got some advice from a supportive family friend. If I don't stop this with my grandmother, I fear that it's going to end up being as if I never moved out and got free. I'll have to deal with abuse from afar as her personal secretary again.

I'm thinking that I will stop answering her phone calls for the time being. I will text her instead and ask if it's an emergency or what it is she needs. I'm not very good at putting up healthy boundaries in person or over the phone. That way I can manage it a little better through text.

The last I heard she was stalking my social media and continuing to tell people lies about me. I wish everyone would not believe her. Oh well, I will continue to pray for them and of course I love my family. But, perhaps I need to put them in the balcony and not in the front row seats for now.

Thanks to anyone reading this.

[Thirty shades]

Its good to vent and let it out.

Healthy boundaries are very important. It takes time to learn how to set them. My abusers are not good with boundaries, so I have had to withdraw completely.

[cptsdwhoa]

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

Its good to vent and let it out.

Healthy boundaries are very important. It takes time to learn how to set them. My abusers are not good with boundaries, so I have had to withdraw completely.

Thank you for taking the time to reply

Yeah, I'm trying to remember that recovery takes time and that I can learn these skills. I will see how things go with her and my family (most of my abuse comes from my family). I've felt like withdrawing completely until I'm a bit stronger.