Harsh Truths About An Over-thinker With A Sensitive Heart article

Harsh Truths About An Over-thinker With A Sensitive Heart
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Harsh Truths About An Over-thinker With A Sensitive Heart

Over-thinkers tend to analyze every single thing, stick to details and try to find a meaning about everything. They don't give themselves a break and, so, they are always too hard on themselves.

If you are an over-thinker, you probably take people's opinions too seriously and try to understand exactly why they say whatever they say. If you also have a sensitive heart, then all this overthinking probably drives you crazy, because you try to analyze everything without sounding insane to others.

Another harsh truth about sensitive over-thinkers is that they see the world in black and white. They can't be in the middle and settle for gray. They don't have 'half-feelings,' they either do or don't, love or hate, feel completely happy or completely devastated.

Sometimes, you might be 'too much' for some people; too sentimental, too analyzing, too emotional, too nervous, too romantic. And that will make you sad, but you've got to realize that not everyone is going to like us. Because if you don't, then you'll always feel like you don't belong.

Another common thing in sensitive over-thinkers is that they have an inner struggle to be present in life, but they usually don’t really feel connected to their environment or the people around them. That’s why they thrive when they work alone or when they are isolated from their routine.

They crave love most of the time, but they don’t like to put themselves out there much. Their heart is fragile and hopeful, so when they don’t get the affection or the love they were looking for, it breaks them. Then they shut themselves off from the world because they need time to heal, even if it wasn’t anything major.

They’re always trying to find the meaning behind everything; behind their pain or their heartbreak; behind their losses and the lessons they’ve learned. They can’t just live without trying to find answers to the questions they have.

They have a special relationship with the universe. Sometimes they feel deeply connected like their bond is so strong and powerful, but sometimes they feel so distant like they don’t understand the world anymore. It often feels like it’s them against the universe and that’s a battle they can’t figure out how to win.

When you’re an over-thinker with a sensitive heart, it's possible to suffer from insomnia, as your bed is the place where your worst thoughts and fears haunt you all at once. It’s where you question everything you say and everything you do.

However, sensitive over-thinkers are characterized by some of the best traits in the world. They are artistic, creative and unique. They have an extraordinary way of thinking which may not be loved by everyone, but it's worth loving. They have high emotional intelligence, and that's why all their relationships, romantic or not, are deep and sincere.

Wondering if this may be an issue for me instead of the complete avoidance life. Seems like everything I do is an avoidance behavior.

Thanks for posting that. I definitely over think and am very sensitive. I see it as a double edged sword, I like that I am sensitive to others, but it can leave me vulnerable with nowhere to go.

Fits me to a "T" and I would not change any of it for anything.

Awesome

Not that it is never troublesome, of course, but I cannot imagine even trying to care any less just because some people think and occasionally even say I care too much! Impossible. Whenever that seems to cause trouble, the problem is actually somewhere else.

Sometimes people take advantage of people that are overly nice and that can hurt a lot. I've had to set some boundaries with friends and neighbors.

The worst ever for me was when I put everything I had into doing a job for someone I considered a friend, then discovered he was quite two-faced. I know nothing about "setting boundaries", but I did learn to never again consider someone trustworthy until s/he has actually proved to be so.

There's nothing wrong with boundaries. They have to be something you are comfortable with, remember you set the tone for them. It's okay to say "no" sometimes or I can't get that done right now, maybe later. It's all up to you. But boundaries are for protecting you from burn out, feeling used, make people see that you are human and need your time and space as well. My problem was that I would volunteer to do something without the person asking. Then when I did that they expected it to be done when, where, they wanted. Almost like I owned that to them now. I don't like being taken advantage of, but I do like to help people. So I had to come up with a plan that would take care of both situations. And it's working out well.