[SoupDragon]

I have been wondering about this, this morning. How would I know that I was "cured"? What would be different for me? What am I trying to achieve for myself?

I have felt less overwhelmed generally today, not sure if it's because I took a half sleeping tablet last night, so still a bit sedated. I did notice a little bit of rising panic when I was shopping for food. I have food issues, so not sure if it was because I was surrounded by the stuff, or whether it felt overwhelming trying to make decisions in there.

So one thing that would let me know I was "better" would ge freedom from those panic / anxious thoughts. But beyond that I am not sure what I want for me.

Do you know what you are hoping for?

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

I have been wondering about this, this morning. How would I know that I was "cured"? What would be different for me? What am I trying to achieve for myself?

I have felt less overwhelmed generally today, not sure if it's because I took a half sleeping tablet last night, so still a bit sedated. I did notice a little bit of rising panic when I was shopping for food. I have food issues, so not sure if it was because I was surrounded by the stuff, or whether it felt overwhelming trying to make decisions in there.

So one thing that would let me know I was "better" would ge freedom from those panic / anxious thoughts. But beyond that I am not sure what I want for me.

Do you know what you are hoping for?

Not get so stressed about leaving the house. Be able to block the memories that so bind my mind. Get back to my old self, whoever that was.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

I have been wondering about this, this morning. How would I know that I was "cured"? What would be different for me? What am I trying to achieve for myself?

I have felt less overwhelmed generally today, not sure if it's because I took a half sleeping tablet last night, so still a bit sedated. I did notice a little bit of rising panic when I was shopping for food. I have food issues, so not sure if it was because I was surrounded by the stuff, or whether it felt overwhelming trying to make decisions in there.

So one thing that would let me know I was "better" would ge freedom from those panic / anxious thoughts. But beyond that I am not sure what I want for me.

Do you know what you are hoping for?

a cure? I'm
Just hoping I can support myself with this disorder. I've never thought about a cure. It's a disability. There's no cure for that. You live with it.

[SoupDragon]

I guess that burst my bubble. I've been hoping that I could move on from all of this, be able to live my life without being, what feels like, chained.

But right now, I refuse to give up and accept that this is as good as it gets,

[leomama]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

I guess that burst my bubble. I've been hoping that I could move on from all of this, be able to live my life without being, what feels like, chained.

But right now, I refuse to give up and accept that this is as good as it gets,

good luck

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

I guess that burst my bubble. I've been hoping that I could move on from all of this, be able to live my life without being, what feels like, chained.

But right now, I refuse to give up and accept that this is as good as it gets,

Keep pushing and not give up hope that things can get better.If you keep working towards that it will get better in some ways. Our issues is with memories and they will always be in our head. But how we deal with them is the key. How much impact we allow them to have can make us feel better. Total cure, no, it's because we are plagued with something we can control, memories. But it can get better no doubt if you commit to putting the work in.

[RubyRae]

Although there's no 'cure', we can learn ways to manage symptoms and have more good days than bad ones.

I refuse to just give in or give up,I will always try to improve myself.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by leomama

It's a disability. There's no cure for that. You live with it.

It's not necessarily a disability for everyone that has it,many people learn to manage it and lead very productive lives,so I disagree that it's a 'disability'.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

It's not necessarily a disability for everyone that has it,many people learn to manage it and lead very productive lives,so I disagree that it's a 'disability'.

I agree, it doesn't have to be a disability, but it can be for some. Every situation is different, every person is different, so with PTSD or CPTSD it can be one or the other.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

It's not necessarily a disability for everyone that has it,many people learn to manage it and lead very productive lives,so I disagree that it's a 'disability'.

you think a person chooses a disability?

[reb569]

Weighing in late on this one. I couldn't come up with an answer yesterday. I think cure is a strong word and it's not feasible for most, however, based on everyone's unique situation, their outlook differs.

I guess my struggle with the word cure is, how do we know what we would be like if we hadn't experienced the neglect or abuse we did as children? I for one sense that I was meant to be an outgoing, extroverted type, the center of attention. In reality, that will never happen. CPTSD has stolen that from me. My hope is to learn to manage it the best I can and do the best I can with my life.

[Blaire]

I think that for me, getting better would mean no longer letting what happened define me. I think it would mean I can make my own decisions about what I want for my life, not just living for justice and always feeling defeated and broken. I think it would mean feeling like I am stronger than it, not the other way around.

I know that it can be extremely debilitating and creates so many barriers and takes away your freedom. I know that no one is the same after a major trauma. But I do believe it's possible to grow stronger than it and live life on our own terms. At least, that's my hope.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Blaire

I think that for me, getting better would mean no longer letting what happened define me. I think it would mean I can make my own decisions about what I want for my life, not just living for justice and always feeling defeated and broken. I think it would mean feeling like I am stronger than it, not the other way around.

I know that it can be extremely debilitating and creates so many barriers and takes away your freedom. I know that no one is the same after a major trauma. But I do believe it's possible to grow stronger than it and live life on our own terms. At least, that's my hope.

That sounds reasonable and an awesome plan. Totally agree with you.
Welcome to PC!

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by leomama

you think a person chooses a disability?

For me this is about the definition. A pianist may have a disability if they loose a finger tip, for someone else this may not have a big impact on their life. Someone with a broken leg may be temporarily disabled.

I think "labels" can be helpful to a point, but for me, thinking I am "disabled" would mean not trying to make things better for myself, to lose hope. I do not want to be defined by that label. However accept for others, this may be helpful to them.

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by Blaire

I think that for me, getting better would mean no longer letting what happened define me. I think it would mean I can make my own decisions about what I want for my life, not just living for justice and always feeling defeated and broken. I think it would mean feeling like I am stronger than it, not the other way around.

I know that it can be extremely debilitating and creates so many barriers and takes away your freedom. I know that no one is the same after a major trauma. But I do believe it's possible to grow stronger than it and live life on our own terms. At least, that's my hope.

Thank-you fior sharing this. That is exactly what I want for myself.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

For me this is about the definition. A pianist may have a disability if they loose a finger tip, for someone else this may not have a big impact on their life. Someone with a broken leg may be temporarily disabled.


I think "labels" can be helpful to a point, but for me, thinking I am "disabled" would mean not trying to make things better for myself, to lose hope. I do not want to be defined by that label. However accept for others, this may be helpful to them.

I am talking about a work related term.

[Gus1234U]

do not listen to people who say things like: Everyone, Always, Never...

there have been recoveries, i know because i am one. i worked HARD to rebalance my brain chemistry without psych meds, which are just another imbalance, and to restructure my belief and thought systems, so i could train my mind to be more positive. if you want to do the work, you can certainly improve to the point where life is bearable....

p.s. my pdoc says i'm "in remission", cause he doesn't believe in recovery, either.... but i haven't taken anything but a valium in over 15 yrs. , and that is partly for a sleep disorder and restless leg syndrome (which could probably be improved by more exercize ).

[leomama]

there's nothing wrong with psych meds and success means being able to support yourself, however it doesn't change the fact you have a disability, you've just learned to adapt . Having a disability is not that bad. If you don't have one don't sweat it.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by leomama

there's nothing wrong with psych meds and success means being able to support yourself, however it doesn't change the fact you have a disability, you've just learned to adapt . Having a disability is not that bad. If you don't have one don't sweat it.

If it's a 'disability' then why aren't those that are diagnosed with it automatically approved for disability benefits when they apply?It's because it's a disorder,with varying degrees of symptoms and problems for each person that has it,just being diagnosed with it doesn't make it a disability.

There's a big difference in a disorder and a disability.Some people with PTSD(or cPTSD) do become disabled from it,unable to function,unable to work while others have or do find ways to manage their condition and are able to be high functioning and work a job.Each person is different.

I was told after quite a few years of therapy that I still have constant,chronic PTSD(cPTSD),but I don't consider myself disabled,I have learned to live with my disorder and constantly work to manage my symptoms.I am not considered disabled by any MH professionals,I have an illness that I will always have.No different than any other illness,such as high blood pressure or diabetes that can be managed but not cured.

I'm sorry if you have been disabled by PTSD,not everyone is though.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

If it's a 'disability' then why aren't those that are diagnosed with it automatically approved for disability benefits when they apply?It's because it's a disorder,with varying degrees of symptoms and problems for each person that has it,just being diagnosed with it doesn't make it a disability.

There's a big difference in a disorder and a disability.Some people with PTSD(or cPTSD) do become disabled from it,unable to function,unable to work while others have or do find ways to manage their condition and are able to be high functioning and work a job.Each person is different.

I was told after quite a few years of therapy that I still have constant,chronic PTSD(cPTSD),but I don't consider myself disabled,I have learned to live with my disorder and constantly work to manage my symptoms.I am not considered disabled by any MH professionals,I have an illness that I will always have.No different than any other illness,such as high blood pressure or diabetes that can be managed but not cured.

I'm sorry if you have been disabled by PTSD,not everyone is though.

Very true.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

If it's a 'disability' then why aren't those that are diagnosed with it automatically approved for disability benefits when they apply?It's because it's a disorder,with varying degrees of symptoms and problems for each person that has it,just being diagnosed with it doesn't make it a disability.

There's a big difference in a disorder and a disability.Some people with PTSD(or cPTSD) do become disabled from it,unable to function,unable to work while others have or do find ways to manage their condition and are able to be high functioning and work a job.Each person is different.

I was told after quite a few years of therapy that I still have constant,chronic PTSD(cPTSD),but I don't consider myself disabled,I have learned to live with my disorder and constantly work to manage my symptoms.I am not considered disabled by any MH professionals,I have an illness that I will always have.No different than any other illness,such as high blood pressure or diabetes that can be managed but not cured.

I'm sorry if you have been disabled by PTSD,not everyone is though.

you think ppl with disabilities can't work?

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by leomama

I am talking about a work related term.

Originally Posted by leomama

you think ppl with disabilities can't work?

I get the feeling you will just try to debate anything and everything that's said here,so I think I'm going to pass on trying to discuss this with you.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

I get the feeling you will just try to debate anything and everything that's said here,so I think I'm going to pass on trying to discuss this with you.

that's cool but you were the one attacking me which is why I started my own thread on another forum , and you went on that one too.

[reb569]

I personally find CPTSD to be very problematic, however it has not impacted my ability to work. Has it impacted how well I've done at work? Most likely, without it I probably would be in a totally different position, or even different line of work and probably doing much better. But it hasn't prevented me from working and doing a great job at my level.

I don't think anyone here is trying to negate anyone's opinion or circumstances. It really just boils down to everyone being unique and being impacted differently by CPTSD or PTSD.

[leomama]

I think there is a lot of misunderstanding going on here which is why I moved my discussion over, to no avail, I got attacked there too. Actual cases of ptsd that are disabling require rehabilitation.